-I don't know how to bring it up. I am really upset, I feel cheated on. I also notice on his computer he was searching "trina's a**, big ****, etc" I was really upset. he has cheated on me a lot, but he is trying to make it right. and I just saw the PAID PORN yesterday.
What should I do, I feel like he cheated on me.
we been together for over 2 years.Nooooo! Don't think like that!!
From a personal view point if he is horny and your not around and is lacking imagination...
I can see where your coming from, w*nking over another girl an all but I can promise you 95% of guys look at porn - especially if they're young 30 or younger.
I have actually talked about this with my friends chick - around her he cant look at anyone or else the claws come out lol... she makes her own porn for him coz she realizes guys are guys... if your finding it hard to bring up the situation then you could always make your own solo video then show it to him.
He might be like oh wow kinda thing.. then you can say I made you this coz i feel cheated on by you watching it etc.
It still might not work though - new material would always be needed. You might not wanna here it but from a god dam horny guys perspective I would carry on watching it, i'd just be secretive about it. But then I wouldn't be happy about having to be secretive about it.. i believe honesty in a relationship is the way forward..
Oh yea.. slap him for paying for it!!! XNXX is just one of many loololool.
porn is a very normal and natural thing, dont feel cheated on regarding the porn. It is no reflection on you. I know many men and women who use it. It doesnt make him a bad person or fancy u anyless i promise! he will have used it before you and will probably continue too, the underlying issue here seems to be the fact he cheated on you previously, talk to him about ur trust issues, he may be working on them but communication is the key... :) if your ucomfortable he will explain why to you, and that its not a reflection on you, it will put ur mind at ease. Dont fly off the handle when u ask him, just sit him down and ask him to explain it to you, why he used it and then talk about it.
you really need to just sit him down and talk about it. Tell him you found his porn and you want to talk about it. Don't listen to these woman who think its "normal" for guys to look at other woman like this... they say that if you dont let your guy watch porn then you are insecure but thats bull ****.
If you dont like it you dont like it .. porn can become addictive just like a drug and plenty of people are for or against drugs so you need to have the porn talk with your boyfriend and see if he is willing to give it up for you or not.
Don't take any notice of all the "know it all" females that tell you it is normal for all males to watch porn. If it is there in front of their face, yeah, then they will watch it. But for someone who is in a relationship to pay for it ---- he has a problem.
Therefore you have a problem as well. If he is such a type you would be far better off giving him the flick & finding someone normal down the track.
He can't be too bright - he got caught out!
talk to him about it, if he has cheated on you a number of times in the past its only a matter of time till he does it again. soon the porn will not be enough and he will want more.
once a cheater, always a cheater.
sorry
You realise 90% of men masterbate . How many of that percent watches porn ? The majority easily . Don't feel cheated on by this
I agree that it feels like he is cheating. You should be enough for him. If you talk to him and he doesnt stop..you know what to do!
it is a legal activity.
does not make him a bad guy or than he thinks any less of you
i don't care much for porn,but,i have nothing aganst it
people watch porn all the time. thats definatly not a big deal. of course people paying for porn thats just stupid! but siriosly talk it out if you think this is an issue
You feel cheated because buddy paid for porn tell to go to some free wabsites then
You say: "He has cheated on me a lot"... sorry girl but, why the **** are you still with him? For the love of God, have some pride!
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2011年8月4日星期四
How and where can i get my life partner?
-How: do not change the way you are unless you need a touch-up in your personality.
Where: good girls go to heaven and bad girls are everywhere.By being yourself and taking yourself where members of the opposite sex hang out. If you hang out in a trashy place, trashy people are going to go there and you will end up with a trashy person. If you to a working class place, where people like to hang out after work, you will probably find a good person, who is employed, has some self respect and is motivated in the world. You should go with option 2 - find a place where the working people like to hang out when they get off work and don't have any life partners to go home to- thus making them single and available.
My dear,
Some are luckier, some have to work on it, being focused and working on the path makes love & marriage come to you sooner since almost all is in our actions.
Be on the lookout, tell your friends / family / your prayer place / community place. Join an activity group of your interest where youngsters are present. Join online dating & matrimonial sites, look into local and professional matchmakers.
Here are some sites: shaadi.com, jeevansathi.com, bharatmatrimony.com, christianmatrimony.com, simplymarry.com
If you feel you have to work on yourself to improve physically, emotionally, character & personality wise etc, then do that as well.
Being financially independent is always good.
===================================
--( important)
There is a spiritual side to love & marriage as well.Do browse thru this and follow. Has helped many.
http://sites.google.com/site/drskylovean鈥?/a>
====================================
Read the book:
Love will find you: 9 magnets to bring you and your soulmate together
By Kathryn Alice
http://www.kathrynalice.com/index.html
==================================
--http://thesecret.tv/index.html
Read the book, The SECRET(part about winning relationships)
==The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts
By Dr. Gary chapman
Wish you best.
ALWAYS REMEMBER LIFE HAS NO RULES.
finding your life partner entirely depends upon you.you see a guy near you ask in your mind is he the one???????????and thats how it goes.....there are no fixed place or time just be normal....bye
Why on earth are you so "Desperate" to find a life partner? Aren't you happy with your life ?
Men are available all over the world?
What is the problem?
Craigslist
see here nd there in ur circle u got ur life partner..
Please write your birth details for your answer
Pray to almight to God, he shall lead ya.
at walmarks
Where: good girls go to heaven and bad girls are everywhere.By being yourself and taking yourself where members of the opposite sex hang out. If you hang out in a trashy place, trashy people are going to go there and you will end up with a trashy person. If you to a working class place, where people like to hang out after work, you will probably find a good person, who is employed, has some self respect and is motivated in the world. You should go with option 2 - find a place where the working people like to hang out when they get off work and don't have any life partners to go home to- thus making them single and available.
My dear,
Some are luckier, some have to work on it, being focused and working on the path makes love & marriage come to you sooner since almost all is in our actions.
Be on the lookout, tell your friends / family / your prayer place / community place. Join an activity group of your interest where youngsters are present. Join online dating & matrimonial sites, look into local and professional matchmakers.
Here are some sites: shaadi.com, jeevansathi.com, bharatmatrimony.com, christianmatrimony.com, simplymarry.com
If you feel you have to work on yourself to improve physically, emotionally, character & personality wise etc, then do that as well.
Being financially independent is always good.
===================================
--( important)
There is a spiritual side to love & marriage as well.Do browse thru this and follow. Has helped many.
http://sites.google.com/site/drskylovean鈥?/a>
====================================
Read the book:
Love will find you: 9 magnets to bring you and your soulmate together
By Kathryn Alice
http://www.kathrynalice.com/index.html
==================================
--http://thesecret.tv/index.html
Read the book, The SECRET(part about winning relationships)
==The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts
By Dr. Gary chapman
Wish you best.
ALWAYS REMEMBER LIFE HAS NO RULES.
finding your life partner entirely depends upon you.you see a guy near you ask in your mind is he the one???????????and thats how it goes.....there are no fixed place or time just be normal....bye
Why on earth are you so "Desperate" to find a life partner? Aren't you happy with your life ?
Men are available all over the world?
What is the problem?
Craigslist
see here nd there in ur circle u got ur life partner..
Please write your birth details for your answer
Pray to almight to God, he shall lead ya.
at walmarks
Kelly Ripa Says the Man Should Always Pay for Dinner? Do You Agree With Her?
-It's a debate that's practically as old as dating itself: When a man and a woman go out to dinner who should pay for the dinner?
According to Kelly Ripa, it's the guy. No matter what the situation is.
"We give birth. You pick up the check," the perky talk show host said on Friday.
Any feminist that disagrees with me, I am sorry, but it's gone ridiculous now."
Ripa's co-host Regis Philbin begged to differ, saying, "If she wants to pick it up fine,"
but Ripa countered, "I'm sure she doesn't want to pick it up."
As for us we're somewhere between Ripa and Philbin. Let's be honest: Women do like it when men pick up the check. Anyone who says otherwise is lying.
But every now and then, it's nice to give a dude a break from paying all the time. It's a woman's way of saying "I make my own money, too. And by the way, you're not buying me all of these dinners."
Isn't it. So do you think a man should pay for dinner every single time? Why or why not?
I want to know do you agree with Kelly Ripa?On the first date, yes its polite for the man to pick up the tab-- but after that if you continue seeing one another then she should at least chip in.I think on the first date, they should go dutch because if nothing ever happens after that I always feel like I owe him another date or something. After that it's really up the the couple. My husband payed for everything while we were dating (food wise) and I always felt so bad and offered so many times, the only time he let me up put the tab was on his birthday.
I do not agree with her. How silly. Especially someone in her position! I'm sure she probably makes more money than her husband, what if their finances are separate? Does she make him pay for every meal??
I wouldn't call myself a feminist but I'm a grown woman and I can pay for things too.
If the man asks the woman to accompany him for dinner, then HE pays.
if the woman ask the man to accompany her for dinner, then SHE pays.
AT ANY TIME, if the other person offers to pay -- let them!
No i don't agree with her. I have paid my way many times on a date and his on occasion. but if you going out then you might want to be prepared for picking up the check because you said it women like to be takin' care of
Yes , if the man pays for dinner and drinks the woman is obligated to have sex with him.
I agree .
If the woman pays ,she is off the hook 'til next time.
The person who extends the invitation should also pick up the check. If a guy asks out a girl, the guy should pay. And vice versa.
I like to pay for all dates. Old fashioned, I guess.
Sounds like Kelly is trying to make men out to be suckers !
I think you should
I demand the woman pick it up...after all, i picked HER up.
<------- Waiting for Boston to ask me out.
No, I don't think that should be a rule.
I do not agree.
When my husband and I were dating long, long ago (we'll be married 24 years next month), I was working and he was still a college student. I am a practical woman - why would a college student pay for dates over a person working one full and one part time job?
I paid for our dates when we went out and he planned very nice and inexpensive dates at his apartment or hiking etc. (he made dinner for me on many occasions).
I actually agree with you more than I do with her. I most of the time expect and want a man to pick up the check but sometimes it is sweet and considerate of a woman to pay for dinner too, especially once you are in an established relationship. I do not think it's ok for a woman to pay for dinner in the early stages of dating someone new, but offering to pay the tip or offering to buy him a few drinks after is a nice compromise. I also am no feminists. I like my doors being opened, my chairs being pulled out and as hard as I try sometimes I seriously just cannot open that damn mayonaise jar. Haha I think Marilyn Monroe said it best, "I don't mind living in a man's world as long as I can be a woman in it"
The person who does the asking for the dinner date should be obligated to pick up the tab, unless he, or she makes it understood up front that they expect the other to either pay or chip in. There is no reason today for these things to be dance around. If the guy asks and doesn't spring it on the girl until the bill is presented and then announces she is expected to either pay or contribute, that's inappropriate. If the guy asks if the girl wants to share dinner, that's another situation. These things shouldn't be a problem if handled properly.
This started from years back. the man was working and the female rarely worked for pay. So he had to pay the bill. Was a sign he could take care of her and provide.
In later years it has become a gentleman thing. I never dated any female and had any idea of her paying for things. Being shocked when date paid the check a few times.
My wife brought us dinner several times when we were dating. She worked at a restaurant and paid full charge for it.
My wife pays the check at times now, but she is paying wit hour money, married 20 years we do not have separate accounts.
According to Kelly Ripa, it's the guy. No matter what the situation is.
"We give birth. You pick up the check," the perky talk show host said on Friday.
Any feminist that disagrees with me, I am sorry, but it's gone ridiculous now."
Ripa's co-host Regis Philbin begged to differ, saying, "If she wants to pick it up fine,"
but Ripa countered, "I'm sure she doesn't want to pick it up."
As for us we're somewhere between Ripa and Philbin. Let's be honest: Women do like it when men pick up the check. Anyone who says otherwise is lying.
But every now and then, it's nice to give a dude a break from paying all the time. It's a woman's way of saying "I make my own money, too. And by the way, you're not buying me all of these dinners."
Isn't it. So do you think a man should pay for dinner every single time? Why or why not?
I want to know do you agree with Kelly Ripa?On the first date, yes its polite for the man to pick up the tab-- but after that if you continue seeing one another then she should at least chip in.I think on the first date, they should go dutch because if nothing ever happens after that I always feel like I owe him another date or something. After that it's really up the the couple. My husband payed for everything while we were dating (food wise) and I always felt so bad and offered so many times, the only time he let me up put the tab was on his birthday.
I do not agree with her. How silly. Especially someone in her position! I'm sure she probably makes more money than her husband, what if their finances are separate? Does she make him pay for every meal??
I wouldn't call myself a feminist but I'm a grown woman and I can pay for things too.
If the man asks the woman to accompany him for dinner, then HE pays.
if the woman ask the man to accompany her for dinner, then SHE pays.
AT ANY TIME, if the other person offers to pay -- let them!
No i don't agree with her. I have paid my way many times on a date and his on occasion. but if you going out then you might want to be prepared for picking up the check because you said it women like to be takin' care of
Yes , if the man pays for dinner and drinks the woman is obligated to have sex with him.
I agree .
If the woman pays ,she is off the hook 'til next time.
The person who extends the invitation should also pick up the check. If a guy asks out a girl, the guy should pay. And vice versa.
I like to pay for all dates. Old fashioned, I guess.
Sounds like Kelly is trying to make men out to be suckers !
I think you should
I demand the woman pick it up...after all, i picked HER up.
<------- Waiting for Boston to ask me out.
No, I don't think that should be a rule.
I do not agree.
When my husband and I were dating long, long ago (we'll be married 24 years next month), I was working and he was still a college student. I am a practical woman - why would a college student pay for dates over a person working one full and one part time job?
I paid for our dates when we went out and he planned very nice and inexpensive dates at his apartment or hiking etc. (he made dinner for me on many occasions).
I actually agree with you more than I do with her. I most of the time expect and want a man to pick up the check but sometimes it is sweet and considerate of a woman to pay for dinner too, especially once you are in an established relationship. I do not think it's ok for a woman to pay for dinner in the early stages of dating someone new, but offering to pay the tip or offering to buy him a few drinks after is a nice compromise. I also am no feminists. I like my doors being opened, my chairs being pulled out and as hard as I try sometimes I seriously just cannot open that damn mayonaise jar. Haha I think Marilyn Monroe said it best, "I don't mind living in a man's world as long as I can be a woman in it"
The person who does the asking for the dinner date should be obligated to pick up the tab, unless he, or she makes it understood up front that they expect the other to either pay or chip in. There is no reason today for these things to be dance around. If the guy asks and doesn't spring it on the girl until the bill is presented and then announces she is expected to either pay or contribute, that's inappropriate. If the guy asks if the girl wants to share dinner, that's another situation. These things shouldn't be a problem if handled properly.
This started from years back. the man was working and the female rarely worked for pay. So he had to pay the bill. Was a sign he could take care of her and provide.
In later years it has become a gentleman thing. I never dated any female and had any idea of her paying for things. Being shocked when date paid the check a few times.
My wife brought us dinner several times when we were dating. She worked at a restaurant and paid full charge for it.
My wife pays the check at times now, but she is paying wit hour money, married 20 years we do not have separate accounts.
My husband sleeps all the time..is something wrong with him?
-my husband is in his 30's and he gets home pretty early from his job..problem is that he always wants to lie down instead of sitting or he always falls asleep...if he could sleep every minute of the day he would do it..worst scenario he falls asleep every night without spending enough time with me...we/ve been married for like over a year..is this normal or is something the matter??Depression
Diabetes
Heart Disease
High Blood Pressure
Low Testosterone Level
All of these come to mind.
He NEEDS a complete physical, including blood work up, to find out IF anything is wrong, or maybe he just likes to sleep.
Schedule an appointment with his doctor, and make sure he keeps it. YOU drive, and go in with him. if He doesn't ask about the tiredness, then YOU ask.
I do wish you could tell us more and that way it would be easier to answer your question because we don't know what type of job he does, how far is his job to home, does he drive or does he travel on a public transport and if so, how long does it take him?
Most likely, you've got to seek medical advice.
If it's nothing to do with his daily activities there's a good chance that's it's actually a sleeping disorder. You should get to a doctor if you can. http://www.webmd.com/sleep-disorders/gui鈥?/a> has a wealth of information. It may also have to do with stress, depression, or diet. Talk to him about how he's feeling and go from there.
Let him get to the bottom of it, it could be bad sleep at night, fatigue, or feeling down. Either way it needs to be corrected, it's not normal honey
He could be bored, depressed, escaping from something or it could have physical causes. Some medications also cause fatigue.
get his blood work done, lack of testosterone, thyroid, vitiman levels low could be one or more. Will make you tired and with out help or meds, will not get better. also sleep disorder. Is he snoring?
See a DR.
maybe his job is too physical and just gets tired. talk to him and find out what is bothering him.
Get him sexually active ;)
Some people are like that. You could have him bring it up to his doctor and get him tested but I doubt it's serious. Maybe his job is overly stressful?
something is the matter. You're a completely boring wife. why else would he want to sleep instead of talking to you?
maybe its probably his diet. but you as his wife need to get his attention too. men need to be given attention cause if they dont they look it somewhere else and vice versa
Either he's bored, tired, stressed, or has nothing better to do.
people don't sleep out of spite-- it is a natural phenomenon, it must mean he is tired. let him sleep.
depending on his job he could be very physically drained
Is his job labor intensive?
It's too long to go into here, but please do a web search on "sleep apnea".
it's normal
At least you know where he is at and what he is doing....
vitum c and b 12 or b 3
gee that could mean alot..
are you guys active alot???
depression? umm maybe hes really tired..
best regards
Diabetes
Heart Disease
High Blood Pressure
Low Testosterone Level
All of these come to mind.
He NEEDS a complete physical, including blood work up, to find out IF anything is wrong, or maybe he just likes to sleep.
Schedule an appointment with his doctor, and make sure he keeps it. YOU drive, and go in with him. if He doesn't ask about the tiredness, then YOU ask.
I do wish you could tell us more and that way it would be easier to answer your question because we don't know what type of job he does, how far is his job to home, does he drive or does he travel on a public transport and if so, how long does it take him?
Most likely, you've got to seek medical advice.
If it's nothing to do with his daily activities there's a good chance that's it's actually a sleeping disorder. You should get to a doctor if you can. http://www.webmd.com/sleep-disorders/gui鈥?/a> has a wealth of information. It may also have to do with stress, depression, or diet. Talk to him about how he's feeling and go from there.
Let him get to the bottom of it, it could be bad sleep at night, fatigue, or feeling down. Either way it needs to be corrected, it's not normal honey
He could be bored, depressed, escaping from something or it could have physical causes. Some medications also cause fatigue.
get his blood work done, lack of testosterone, thyroid, vitiman levels low could be one or more. Will make you tired and with out help or meds, will not get better. also sleep disorder. Is he snoring?
See a DR.
maybe his job is too physical and just gets tired. talk to him and find out what is bothering him.
Get him sexually active ;)
Some people are like that. You could have him bring it up to his doctor and get him tested but I doubt it's serious. Maybe his job is overly stressful?
something is the matter. You're a completely boring wife. why else would he want to sleep instead of talking to you?
maybe its probably his diet. but you as his wife need to get his attention too. men need to be given attention cause if they dont they look it somewhere else and vice versa
Either he's bored, tired, stressed, or has nothing better to do.
people don't sleep out of spite-- it is a natural phenomenon, it must mean he is tired. let him sleep.
depending on his job he could be very physically drained
Is his job labor intensive?
It's too long to go into here, but please do a web search on "sleep apnea".
it's normal
At least you know where he is at and what he is doing....
vitum c and b 12 or b 3
gee that could mean alot..
are you guys active alot???
depression? umm maybe hes really tired..
best regards
Do u think my mom is cheating?
-My mom went to another state to help with this lady bc my mom watched her. And her nephew is in charge of this old lady an stuff so theyd talk abt her and all that. But since returning my mom has been texting a lot and so I went through her phone. And in two texts he called her babe and Hun. And he told her about this song and now shes been listening to it a lot. And before they used to text just about the lady and now it's what they're doing too. And they put a lot of xoxoxoxo in their messages and tell each other they love each other and call each other my love. And they talk about how they miss each other. And today I read my mom can't stand 3000 miles apart. It's not like anything dirty but they're texting constantly and saying sweet things.If your mom is married she definitely is cheating. Cheating does not have to just be physical. Talking like that to someone outside of your relationship is cheating. It sounds like they probably had relations when they were together as well. I would bring the phone to your father next time you see these types of texts. He deserves to know.
Yes!
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It depends maybe she's just trying to help them out. From what you said, I don't think so.
i think it might be mother and nephew love
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Yeppers
It depends maybe she's just trying to help them out. From what you said, I don't think so.
i think it might be mother and nephew love
This is the third time he cheats on me what do I do?
-This will be the 3rd time my husband cheats I know I should of left him the first time and I did he always begs me back u know when u love someone u dont want to let go but im getting tired of this I feel like I cant take it im stuck what do I do?it is hard , but leave him, i was in the same situation, and i always said that i would not let someone treat me like that, but i let him treat me like that for 3 years , i believed the promises etc because i loved him, and the worst thing was when he finally left me for the other woman last year, i blamed myself. Looking back now i wish i had stood up for myself and gone with my head and not my heart and kicked him out the first time.. I would have coped better being the one to end it rather than living in false hope.
It will be hard but if you have the support you can do it.
its time to leave him and if you are the type that wants to work it out in her relationship then i would say do what you need to do for your life to work!. if you have tried all you can try then its time to leave or suffer the mental/emotional damage that will happen to you if you continue to allow this person to hurt you.
you will never know how to trust another person if this is what your mind has to get use to. talk to your husband and she what it is that he needs and what you can do to help him and let him know your needs and what he can do to help you. and if this dosent work im sorry to say that when you have cheaters, they dislocate themselves from you emotionally along time before they actually do the cheating to make it easier or to justify why it is that they are doing it.
its time to get into a support group and individual counseling so that you have a way to fight back in all of this. dont feel bad about the cheating because millions of people cheat and its for many reasons and the number one reason is that they are unhappy with themselves,
if you have children begin to introduce them to other activities while you sort this thing out. If you are a mother who relies on her husbands income, its time to learn how to work and start saving your money as often as you can spare it. begin to live your life like to are single and this will help to transitions into the real world
i tried to give asmuch information as i knew but you can email me if you need more
Wait until the 4th time and ask us this question again, and keep asking us until you take our advice.. or simply take our advise now and start moving forward.
- Take everything you cherish the most out of the house and put it safe in storage
- Get a phone in your name
- Open up a bank account in just your name only
- Get a PO box and have all your mail sent there
- Start stashing some cash - not just in you bank account - but CASH
- Start looking for a new place to rent and save for first and last months rent
- Do all of the above first
- Find a good lawyer - do not pay for this lawyer with cash - use your bank account, you will want the paper trail
- File for divorce
-Remember to eat
- Take one day at a time, this will be hard and trying
- utilize your resources - it's ok to ask for help
- Finalize the divorce
- Again, remember to eat, you CAN do this
- Work on rebuilding yourself and your life
- Never look back at this cheating man ever again
- Remember to hang onto the perfect 10 as a beautiful woman that you are and don't let anyone take that 10 from you
- Do not jump from the fire into the frying pan by getting into another relationship because your afraid you can not make it without a man - you CAN and you WILL make it
- When the time is right and you have found yourself again - learn to trust and have faith in yourself that you are a wonderful being who is deserving of a wonderful, loving relationship
Third time? I hate to say it but, maybe you've only caught him 3 times. It's seems less like a mistake and more like a lifestyle. It's his fault, not yours. He ruined your relationship. I'm pretty old fashioned and I believe there are only 2 legit reasons to get divorced. 1. He's abusive. 2. He cheats on you.
Stay strong. It's time to move on and find someone who will treat you right.
Unfortunately if you take him back all the time, he will expect it and keep cheating. However, I have heard of guys stopping to rebuild their marriage. You don't want to live with false hope.
Maybe you can show him what life is like without you and take a break, but dont let him know its a break.
You're right, you should have left the first time, and definitely the second time.
You grow some balls and pack your stuff and walk out the door, and tell him you refuse to be his doormat any longer. Get a pep talk from friends and family, who can help you find the strength to leave and will be there for you once it's over.
And DO NOT GO BACK no matter what he says. He's no good for you. You deserve better!
Teresa the word doormat comes to mind ?
You allow him to do this to you ? you keep taking him back
You need to say enough is enough
This guy needs a wake up call let him know you mean it
Stop being such a pushover
You are not "stuck" you are just to scared to do what you already know you need to do; leave him.
He keeps cheating because you keep taking him back.
Grow a backbone, toss all his stuff outside and leave the jerk!
Things change...people do...you have to accept that and realize he doesn't deserve you, he promised to be in a closed relationship and he didn't learn one thing about it...teach him a lesson and never let him get close to you again.
You need to get a backbone and dump him. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Divorce him and move on. There really are men out there that will treat you right and will not cheat.
He will not change only you can. Leave him and stop putting up with his crap.
u leave that bastar* and never look back...if he love you he wouldnt keep putting you through this pain...find somebody that appreciates you like you appreciate them
LEAVE HIS BUTT. He is going to keep doing it cuz he knows your always take him back. My advice leave him and move on with your life.
counseling or divorce
Tell him if he cheats 10 more times you might have to call his Mom
LEAVE HIM
3rd time. What's up?
cheat on him
since you dont know how to leave
Honestly,I would of left him the first time. :(
It will be hard but if you have the support you can do it.
its time to leave him and if you are the type that wants to work it out in her relationship then i would say do what you need to do for your life to work!. if you have tried all you can try then its time to leave or suffer the mental/emotional damage that will happen to you if you continue to allow this person to hurt you.
you will never know how to trust another person if this is what your mind has to get use to. talk to your husband and she what it is that he needs and what you can do to help him and let him know your needs and what he can do to help you. and if this dosent work im sorry to say that when you have cheaters, they dislocate themselves from you emotionally along time before they actually do the cheating to make it easier or to justify why it is that they are doing it.
its time to get into a support group and individual counseling so that you have a way to fight back in all of this. dont feel bad about the cheating because millions of people cheat and its for many reasons and the number one reason is that they are unhappy with themselves,
if you have children begin to introduce them to other activities while you sort this thing out. If you are a mother who relies on her husbands income, its time to learn how to work and start saving your money as often as you can spare it. begin to live your life like to are single and this will help to transitions into the real world
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Wait until the 4th time and ask us this question again, and keep asking us until you take our advice.. or simply take our advise now and start moving forward.
- Take everything you cherish the most out of the house and put it safe in storage
- Get a phone in your name
- Open up a bank account in just your name only
- Get a PO box and have all your mail sent there
- Start stashing some cash - not just in you bank account - but CASH
- Start looking for a new place to rent and save for first and last months rent
- Do all of the above first
- Find a good lawyer - do not pay for this lawyer with cash - use your bank account, you will want the paper trail
- File for divorce
-Remember to eat
- Take one day at a time, this will be hard and trying
- utilize your resources - it's ok to ask for help
- Finalize the divorce
- Again, remember to eat, you CAN do this
- Work on rebuilding yourself and your life
- Never look back at this cheating man ever again
- Remember to hang onto the perfect 10 as a beautiful woman that you are and don't let anyone take that 10 from you
- Do not jump from the fire into the frying pan by getting into another relationship because your afraid you can not make it without a man - you CAN and you WILL make it
- When the time is right and you have found yourself again - learn to trust and have faith in yourself that you are a wonderful being who is deserving of a wonderful, loving relationship
Third time? I hate to say it but, maybe you've only caught him 3 times. It's seems less like a mistake and more like a lifestyle. It's his fault, not yours. He ruined your relationship. I'm pretty old fashioned and I believe there are only 2 legit reasons to get divorced. 1. He's abusive. 2. He cheats on you.
Stay strong. It's time to move on and find someone who will treat you right.
Unfortunately if you take him back all the time, he will expect it and keep cheating. However, I have heard of guys stopping to rebuild their marriage. You don't want to live with false hope.
Maybe you can show him what life is like without you and take a break, but dont let him know its a break.
You're right, you should have left the first time, and definitely the second time.
You grow some balls and pack your stuff and walk out the door, and tell him you refuse to be his doormat any longer. Get a pep talk from friends and family, who can help you find the strength to leave and will be there for you once it's over.
And DO NOT GO BACK no matter what he says. He's no good for you. You deserve better!
Teresa the word doormat comes to mind ?
You allow him to do this to you ? you keep taking him back
You need to say enough is enough
This guy needs a wake up call let him know you mean it
Stop being such a pushover
You are not "stuck" you are just to scared to do what you already know you need to do; leave him.
He keeps cheating because you keep taking him back.
Grow a backbone, toss all his stuff outside and leave the jerk!
Things change...people do...you have to accept that and realize he doesn't deserve you, he promised to be in a closed relationship and he didn't learn one thing about it...teach him a lesson and never let him get close to you again.
You need to get a backbone and dump him. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Divorce him and move on. There really are men out there that will treat you right and will not cheat.
He will not change only you can. Leave him and stop putting up with his crap.
u leave that bastar* and never look back...if he love you he wouldnt keep putting you through this pain...find somebody that appreciates you like you appreciate them
LEAVE HIS BUTT. He is going to keep doing it cuz he knows your always take him back. My advice leave him and move on with your life.
counseling or divorce
Tell him if he cheats 10 more times you might have to call his Mom
LEAVE HIM
3rd time. What's up?
cheat on him
since you dont know how to leave
Honestly,I would of left him the first time. :(
What more can a guy do?
-I'm at a crossroads.....how about you? First off....I am married....don't let this part scare you off.
Things are pretty much done after this past weekend. After trying for years to make someone happy and doing everything that was asked.....it's never good enough. Wouldn't you want a guy that's a great cook, does dishes, scrubs floors, vacuum's, does some laundry, and is a handy man that can fix anything? I have a great job, professional, tall, fit, love kissing, touching.....You can't make someone be happy, you can only let them be happy. You kept up your end. Don't be afraid to move on.
Yes yes yes, so whats the catch
Things are pretty much done after this past weekend. After trying for years to make someone happy and doing everything that was asked.....it's never good enough. Wouldn't you want a guy that's a great cook, does dishes, scrubs floors, vacuum's, does some laundry, and is a handy man that can fix anything? I have a great job, professional, tall, fit, love kissing, touching.....You can't make someone be happy, you can only let them be happy. You kept up your end. Don't be afraid to move on.
Yes yes yes, so whats the catch
How old were you when you got married?
-How old were you when you got married?
How long were the 2 of you together before getting married?
And has it lasted?I was 20 and my husband had just turned 21. We had spent a total of 26 days together over a period of 15 months as we lived at opposite ends of the country. We were very happily married for 28 years (and 2 months) when he died from a brain tumor.
I was 23 陆 and my husband was 25 陆. We dated for 10 months. Everything has worked out wonderfully for us. We have been together for 4 years and we have a 4 month old daughter.
I was 38, he was 30. He proposed after 3 months of dating, and we were married after knowing each other 7 months.
We have been happily married for over 7.5 years.
I was 21 when I got married (2009). We were together for a year before we got married and yes we are still together, we always will be since I'm pregnant!
I was 26 when I got married, she was 24. We were together for about 4 years. We are still married after 28 years.
I will be 20 when I get married. We will have been together for 2.5 years before getting married. It's lasted so far!
First time, 21 and it lasted 20 years. Second time 45 and this one's lasted 21 years.
25, 14 mo, yes
19 been married 6 years
i was 18 when we got engaged 19 when we got married 5 years ago and id do it all over again :)
23, dated for 3 years, yes :)
How long were the 2 of you together before getting married?
And has it lasted?I was 20 and my husband had just turned 21. We had spent a total of 26 days together over a period of 15 months as we lived at opposite ends of the country. We were very happily married for 28 years (and 2 months) when he died from a brain tumor.
I was 23 陆 and my husband was 25 陆. We dated for 10 months. Everything has worked out wonderfully for us. We have been together for 4 years and we have a 4 month old daughter.
I was 38, he was 30. He proposed after 3 months of dating, and we were married after knowing each other 7 months.
We have been happily married for over 7.5 years.
I was 21 when I got married (2009). We were together for a year before we got married and yes we are still together, we always will be since I'm pregnant!
I was 26 when I got married, she was 24. We were together for about 4 years. We are still married after 28 years.
I will be 20 when I get married. We will have been together for 2.5 years before getting married. It's lasted so far!
First time, 21 and it lasted 20 years. Second time 45 and this one's lasted 21 years.
25, 14 mo, yes
19 been married 6 years
i was 18 when we got engaged 19 when we got married 5 years ago and id do it all over again :)
23, dated for 3 years, yes :)
How do I talk to my wife about this?
-Last week we went to visit my wife's family from out of town. When I packed I forgot to pack underwear but luckily my mother in law had just bought new underwear for my father in law so she told me I could just have it. (Usually I wear boxer-briefs and he had fruit of the loom briefs). My wife found it hilarious and called them "tighty whities" and kept teasing me about them saying how unattractive they are. Her 2 brothers and their wives also found it funny (even though both her brothers both wore briefs when her and I got married and only did they switch when the got married and thought they werent cool).
Anyways,after wearing them all week I realized how comfortable they were and how much I actually missed wearing them. (I used to wear them as a kid and then got teased about it in high school and made the switch to boxer-briefs). So now being back at home I actually kinda find the boxer briefs uncomfortable to have around the sides of my legs. So last night I went out and bought a couple more pairs of the fruit of the loom briefs in addition the the packages that my mother in law gave to me but didnt tell my wife and have been wearing them but hiding the dirty laundry from her. How do I go about telling her I want to wear them again after she kept going on and on about how unattractive she thought they were and how she hated when guys wore them??
I'm really worried that she won't want me to wear them and will find me unattractive if i dont wear them.She should care about you being comfortable, just dont wear them ALL the time. Throw on the boxer briefs every now and then. It would be like her wearing granny panties all the time. I bet you wouldn't want to see that ALL the time lol. Just tell her you got used to them and understand why some guys still wear them :)
Jeez, everyone is entitled to change now and then...I mean, do you freak out if she wears different panties? Tell her you like wearing them from time to time, so she won't feel jarred by the new you, as if it's a threat to your image or something.
I couldn't care less what type of underwear my fiance wears. I actually prefer briefs and find them more attractive and that's what he wears - but if he wore boxers I wouldn't say anything about it. He doesn't tell me what type of underwear to wear, lol.
Just tell her, there is no reason for you to be uncomfortable just because she thinks they are unattractive. If she loves you she will accept it.
Tell her the briefs provide better support. boxers is like her walking around with a bra that don't lift.
Just sport them :) who cares.
Do you tell her what knickers to wear ?
She wears whats comfortable
You should do the same
Anyways,after wearing them all week I realized how comfortable they were and how much I actually missed wearing them. (I used to wear them as a kid and then got teased about it in high school and made the switch to boxer-briefs). So now being back at home I actually kinda find the boxer briefs uncomfortable to have around the sides of my legs. So last night I went out and bought a couple more pairs of the fruit of the loom briefs in addition the the packages that my mother in law gave to me but didnt tell my wife and have been wearing them but hiding the dirty laundry from her. How do I go about telling her I want to wear them again after she kept going on and on about how unattractive she thought they were and how she hated when guys wore them??
I'm really worried that she won't want me to wear them and will find me unattractive if i dont wear them.She should care about you being comfortable, just dont wear them ALL the time. Throw on the boxer briefs every now and then. It would be like her wearing granny panties all the time. I bet you wouldn't want to see that ALL the time lol. Just tell her you got used to them and understand why some guys still wear them :)
Jeez, everyone is entitled to change now and then...I mean, do you freak out if she wears different panties? Tell her you like wearing them from time to time, so she won't feel jarred by the new you, as if it's a threat to your image or something.
I couldn't care less what type of underwear my fiance wears. I actually prefer briefs and find them more attractive and that's what he wears - but if he wore boxers I wouldn't say anything about it. He doesn't tell me what type of underwear to wear, lol.
Just tell her, there is no reason for you to be uncomfortable just because she thinks they are unattractive. If she loves you she will accept it.
Tell her the briefs provide better support. boxers is like her walking around with a bra that don't lift.
Just sport them :) who cares.
Do you tell her what knickers to wear ?
She wears whats comfortable
You should do the same
Help me please!!! Please!!?
-I'm depressed. My depression started with a major accident of my boyfriend with whom I wanted to marry. After his accident it was revealed that he was on drugs and my parents decided me to marry at once with another guy. I was totally upset, depressed and in non-acceptable stage. My parents married me to another guy. Now I'm married but my marriage isn't great. I wasn't out of my depression and my parents let me married to a guy who is not at all settled. I have tried a lot to make this marriage work bit it seems that it isn't possible. I don't want to do anywork, I'm careless in whatever I'm doing, I cannot speak to people properly over phone. I have told this to my husband that I am in depression and I need counseling, but he is a miser. He says that everything is fine. He things that I'm being careless. We fight a lot on many issues. I once tried to cut my hand. He punched me on my arm when I refused him once. Yesterday, he slapped on so hard that I'm still having pain in my left cheek and ear. I don't know what to do? I can't complain to my parents coz I know that my parents not being so rich will emotionally blackmail me and make me return to my husband. After beating me, my husband slaps himself the same way in a way of apology. I don't know what to do. Does anybody have some free online depression counsellors? Please help me. I'm in great need.Besides the fact that you need emotional help, what you should be doing is finding a way to get away from that guy before he freaking kills you. i get it you're poor and whatnot, but sometimes in life the best decisions aren't always the most glamorous ones. Get away from him then work on you.
Your parents don't have the right to decide on YOUR life and if you can't count on them, you must ask for help from the outside world - a social assistant (if this is the right name in English), a person who helps people in difficult family situation.
Why are you even asking?
This creep is abusing you.
Run! You probably should file charges against him and a restraining order.
Maybe you should stay single for a while.
Divorce his ***. And look over a phonebook for a counsellor, Online ones aren't very trustworthy
Your depression is because of your situation and is not the real issue. Being abused is. No one deserves to be beaten - no one. What your parents think isn't important. What's important is that you take care of yourself and get yourself out of this situation.
Would your parents find it acceptable that your husband beats you? Tell them what's happening and that you need to leave because you're afraid and don't want any more abuse. Tell them that you need their help.
If they wont help you you need to find someone that can. Can you go to the police or your local hospital?
Your parents don't have the right to decide on YOUR life and if you can't count on them, you must ask for help from the outside world - a social assistant (if this is the right name in English), a person who helps people in difficult family situation.
Why are you even asking?
This creep is abusing you.
Run! You probably should file charges against him and a restraining order.
Maybe you should stay single for a while.
Divorce his ***. And look over a phonebook for a counsellor, Online ones aren't very trustworthy
Your depression is because of your situation and is not the real issue. Being abused is. No one deserves to be beaten - no one. What your parents think isn't important. What's important is that you take care of yourself and get yourself out of this situation.
Would your parents find it acceptable that your husband beats you? Tell them what's happening and that you need to leave because you're afraid and don't want any more abuse. Tell them that you need their help.
If they wont help you you need to find someone that can. Can you go to the police or your local hospital?
How can i control my jealousy issues?
-my wife and i have a very good relationship. however, sometimes i'm blinded by my jealousy issues and cannot be logical.
yesterday my wife went with a girl friend of hers to swim in a very nice deserted beach. the father of that friend had driven them to spend some time there. all these ppl are trustworthy, but i cannot help than think that the father of her friend could be more than happy to see my wife halfnaked in her swimsuit.
am i crazy to think like that?No, you're not crazy. This is about changing your frame of mind, I think. Be proud that your wife can go out, have a good time, perhaps even be attractive to the opposite sex, but she'll always be coming home to you. Confidence in your wife and your relationship equals personal power, which in turn will reduce jealousy. It's everyone else that will be jealous of you, right?No, you are normal. In human biology, we learned that jealousy is a trait that helps survival. So from a biological standpoint, your feelings are a sign that you are more likely to survive in the wild. Interesting, huh?
For the casual everyday married person, considering how men and our modern culture paints (even encourages) them to behave in a sexually-induced uninhibited manner (you being a make can understand what I mean) can only heighten your protective radar for your wife. This is completely understandable and probably something you should discuss with your wife.
With my husband (partially because we are conservative Christians), I never wear a two-piece when swimming without my husband; only a one-piece bathing suit. For my husband, this shows that I am respecting him and do not want to even take the chance of displaying myself for other people to see when he is not around. However, every couple is different. Our situation works very well for us, though.
Crazy- no. Irrational- yes, however fears are never rational.
The real issue is you do not feel secure in your relationship, and you have a hard time really trusting people you are close to.. I'd suggest a few couples counseling sessions to help you improve trust in your relationship.
First off you need to take "ownership" for your own feelings of personal insecurity and self-doubt. It sounds like you're trying to do that, instead of blaming your insecurities on your wife.
No. And you will never be able to control your jealousy issue. I know because I have been with my husband for 6 years and I still am jealous! It never goes away. You're like me..If she loves you she will understand you. At time same time. You have to be reasonable and understand that you can't control her or try. All you will do is push her away and lose her. Be careful. Jealousy is a slippery slope my friend. One wrong move and you will go over the edge!
Do you trust your wife in even the most extreme circumstances your mind can scheme up? Someone lusting after your wife is a completely different thing than your wife cheating. What are you affraid of someone looking or your wife doing something? Address the issue and try and understand!
Oh, it may be very likely that the old man was happy to see your wife in a swimsuit. But WTF does that have to do with YOUR jealousy?
It's crazy to obsess over what other people may or may not be thinking. It's crazy to get bent over the idea that another man might see your wife in a swimsuit while she's swimming....
You need some help, Man.
Has your wife given you a reason for you to be jealous? If not then the problem is you work on your insecurities.
yesterday my wife went with a girl friend of hers to swim in a very nice deserted beach. the father of that friend had driven them to spend some time there. all these ppl are trustworthy, but i cannot help than think that the father of her friend could be more than happy to see my wife halfnaked in her swimsuit.
am i crazy to think like that?No, you're not crazy. This is about changing your frame of mind, I think. Be proud that your wife can go out, have a good time, perhaps even be attractive to the opposite sex, but she'll always be coming home to you. Confidence in your wife and your relationship equals personal power, which in turn will reduce jealousy. It's everyone else that will be jealous of you, right?No, you are normal. In human biology, we learned that jealousy is a trait that helps survival. So from a biological standpoint, your feelings are a sign that you are more likely to survive in the wild. Interesting, huh?
For the casual everyday married person, considering how men and our modern culture paints (even encourages) them to behave in a sexually-induced uninhibited manner (you being a make can understand what I mean) can only heighten your protective radar for your wife. This is completely understandable and probably something you should discuss with your wife.
With my husband (partially because we are conservative Christians), I never wear a two-piece when swimming without my husband; only a one-piece bathing suit. For my husband, this shows that I am respecting him and do not want to even take the chance of displaying myself for other people to see when he is not around. However, every couple is different. Our situation works very well for us, though.
Crazy- no. Irrational- yes, however fears are never rational.
The real issue is you do not feel secure in your relationship, and you have a hard time really trusting people you are close to.. I'd suggest a few couples counseling sessions to help you improve trust in your relationship.
First off you need to take "ownership" for your own feelings of personal insecurity and self-doubt. It sounds like you're trying to do that, instead of blaming your insecurities on your wife.
No. And you will never be able to control your jealousy issue. I know because I have been with my husband for 6 years and I still am jealous! It never goes away. You're like me..If she loves you she will understand you. At time same time. You have to be reasonable and understand that you can't control her or try. All you will do is push her away and lose her. Be careful. Jealousy is a slippery slope my friend. One wrong move and you will go over the edge!
Do you trust your wife in even the most extreme circumstances your mind can scheme up? Someone lusting after your wife is a completely different thing than your wife cheating. What are you affraid of someone looking or your wife doing something? Address the issue and try and understand!
Oh, it may be very likely that the old man was happy to see your wife in a swimsuit. But WTF does that have to do with YOUR jealousy?
It's crazy to obsess over what other people may or may not be thinking. It's crazy to get bent over the idea that another man might see your wife in a swimsuit while she's swimming....
You need some help, Man.
Has your wife given you a reason for you to be jealous? If not then the problem is you work on your insecurities.
Why did you used to date?
-1. Dis you date to just have fun,
2. because everyone else is doing it,
3. just for sexual pleasure,
4. or did you date to search for a marriage partner/soul mate?a combo of 3 + 4. I wanted to get laid and in the process recruit for a spouse. But a few of them weren't anything i'd consider for marriage partner, but were worthwhile to bang for a while.I always dated for fun and for sex, I was never looking for anything serious or long-term, but one fling did turn into a marriage :)
I dated men I enjoyed spending time with, in the hopes that I might find someone I was fully compatible with to build a long term relationship.
4. I'm unsatisfied with short-term relationships in general. I respect people who are in it for the long haul.
1. while I was younger
4. as i grew more mature..
I'll take number 3, please!
2. because everyone else is doing it,
3. just for sexual pleasure,
4. or did you date to search for a marriage partner/soul mate?a combo of 3 + 4. I wanted to get laid and in the process recruit for a spouse. But a few of them weren't anything i'd consider for marriage partner, but were worthwhile to bang for a while.I always dated for fun and for sex, I was never looking for anything serious or long-term, but one fling did turn into a marriage :)
I dated men I enjoyed spending time with, in the hopes that I might find someone I was fully compatible with to build a long term relationship.
4. I'm unsatisfied with short-term relationships in general. I respect people who are in it for the long haul.
1. while I was younger
4. as i grew more mature..
I'll take number 3, please!
I would like to marry my horse.?
-This way I can claim him as an exemption on my income tax return and pay lower taxes.
While some of you may think that would be a fake marriage, There is nothing fake about him being a dependant. His upkeep and expenses are costing me a fortune.
If I was a lesbian and living with a girl who is a student with no money of income, I could now marry her, and get the tax break for her being my spouse, why can't I do the same with MY Horse?I saw a show like that in Tijuana. Really, As far as I am concerned, If the horse can say I DO at the wedding then go for it. Don't expect alimony when you divorce.
But we all really know why you want to marry him don't we.......
I read about girls and horses on the internet. I think you have to marry him after that.
I love it. I knew it would come to this.
I hear it's legal in Mexico
While some of you may think that would be a fake marriage, There is nothing fake about him being a dependant. His upkeep and expenses are costing me a fortune.
If I was a lesbian and living with a girl who is a student with no money of income, I could now marry her, and get the tax break for her being my spouse, why can't I do the same with MY Horse?I saw a show like that in Tijuana. Really, As far as I am concerned, If the horse can say I DO at the wedding then go for it. Don't expect alimony when you divorce.
But we all really know why you want to marry him don't we.......
I read about girls and horses on the internet. I think you have to marry him after that.
I love it. I knew it would come to this.
I hear it's legal in Mexico
I am married but not on the House, can I be kicked out?
-I have been married for 20 years, my name is not on the house at all. My husband and I were living together when he bought the house and we were married by the time he paid it off. He now wants me to move out and said I have rights to nothing since the house is in his name. What rights do I have?see a lawyer - half the house is yours
Ladies Please Answer?? How would you react if you asked a guy if he was married or has a girlfriend & he says?
-this to you: "I'm not in a serious relationship right now because I work crazy hours & real selfish with my time. I just have 2 part-time girlfriends that I see on the weekends when I'm off from work & always have a great time with both them. I see one girlfriend on saturday & the other on sunday..One black girl & One white girl. I get the best of both worlds without the hassles of a relationship..I got it made!" What would go through your mind if a guy said this to you & what would be your response.I would think that he doesn't have the good sense to be ashamed of himself. Not someone I'd want to know, not even just as a friend, because of their lack of character.
Of course, if he withheld that information and I found out later that I was gf #3, I'd be setting up a 3-girl meeting which he would hear about later ...
I would think he's marketing himself poorly or just has no interest in me. Even if this is the truth, it's something he should keep to himself. He could have provided a much shorter and sweeter answer that got the same point across. I would make my exit strategy.
I'd run like the wind in the opposite direction - obviously he care only for himself.
Keeper!
Of course, if he withheld that information and I found out later that I was gf #3, I'd be setting up a 3-girl meeting which he would hear about later ...
I would think he's marketing himself poorly or just has no interest in me. Even if this is the truth, it's something he should keep to himself. He could have provided a much shorter and sweeter answer that got the same point across. I would make my exit strategy.
I'd run like the wind in the opposite direction - obviously he care only for himself.
Keeper!
Relationship Crisis? PLZ HELP!! 10 points?
-Me and my girlfriend loves each other VERY much but her parents of unacceptable of me and our relationship due to me being a different race. Three weeks ago she moved away not by choice to go live with her parents in texas but decided to comeback because she was following her heart to be with me regards of her family views are.
I'm feeling alot of guilt because they pretty much disowned her because she left and wanted to be with me but im not so sure if I care bare the guilt of her not speaking with her family even if I didn't do anything wrong.
I work and she trying to get a job but neither of us really have a steady place to stay. We really don't want to live in our hometown and just want to go to a place where we want be judge and just be accepted as people.
PLZ HELP?It's not your fault she followed your heart , you're the reason but it's okay many did .. but u have to know that she sacrificed a lot for you just by leaving her family and coming all the way to be with you. you should know how to make her happy. you 2 should plan your life and gradually it will be better but of course it's hard.. you start by jobs and saving money.. a33 Goodluck =/
do what is in your heart and dont listen to anyone
This is kind of a very romantic situation. Love is love, and you and your families should be thankful, and proud that you're both willing to sacrifice everything for it.
I hope you two stay together long and strong; don't let family come between, because you may never find someone better.
Family is blood, and blood is thicker than water, but love is strongest of all; it has the power to bring life, and take it away even from something small like a broken heart.
Fun fact:
The spiny mouse. When the spiny mouse is paired with another(opposite sex), it will stay with that one mouse for the rest of it's life, but if you take away it's partner, or if it's partner dies, the other one will die of a broken heart.
I'm feeling alot of guilt because they pretty much disowned her because she left and wanted to be with me but im not so sure if I care bare the guilt of her not speaking with her family even if I didn't do anything wrong.
I work and she trying to get a job but neither of us really have a steady place to stay. We really don't want to live in our hometown and just want to go to a place where we want be judge and just be accepted as people.
PLZ HELP?It's not your fault she followed your heart , you're the reason but it's okay many did .. but u have to know that she sacrificed a lot for you just by leaving her family and coming all the way to be with you. you should know how to make her happy. you 2 should plan your life and gradually it will be better but of course it's hard.. you start by jobs and saving money.. a33 Goodluck =/
do what is in your heart and dont listen to anyone
This is kind of a very romantic situation. Love is love, and you and your families should be thankful, and proud that you're both willing to sacrifice everything for it.
I hope you two stay together long and strong; don't let family come between, because you may never find someone better.
Family is blood, and blood is thicker than water, but love is strongest of all; it has the power to bring life, and take it away even from something small like a broken heart.
Fun fact:
The spiny mouse. When the spiny mouse is paired with another(opposite sex), it will stay with that one mouse for the rest of it's life, but if you take away it's partner, or if it's partner dies, the other one will die of a broken heart.
Ladies,is PDA a turn on?
-Do you like public displays of affection from your husband or boyfriend? Do you like it when he deep kisses you in a restaurant while stroking your inner thigh? Or putting his hand up your skirt for a quick finger taste?
What's your opinion on PDA?Yes, if it doesnt go to0 far. I wouldn't want to offend anyone. But sneaking up my skirt would be exciting.NO, that is just tacky.
A kiss, holding hands is ok, but "making out" and groping one another looks childish.
I'm a big fan of the A.
What's your opinion on PDA?Yes, if it doesnt go to0 far. I wouldn't want to offend anyone. But sneaking up my skirt would be exciting.NO, that is just tacky.
A kiss, holding hands is ok, but "making out" and groping one another looks childish.
I'm a big fan of the A.
Why did i feel that way??? is it true that i m being a freek?
-well sorry for being that upfront and frank with you guys. But seriously its not that i don't want to date men
its that i get angry when men approach me in a flirting way
i m not lesbian because i was (MARRIED) and divorce was so fast
a man in the face tried to approach me and i i started to feel annoyed until i blocked him out
i know that there is no rule that says i should date!
but its like that i want to know about my way is it normal? and why do i feel im divorced since long timeIt's not a crime to be alone. Maybe your resentment and annoyance towards men will dissipate with time. But for now, you're content being single and that's perfectly fine too.At some point you must begin to understand that a man who shows interest is not "in your face" because he asks a question.
Assuming adult behavior here much of the crap gets inquired about very early.
You cannot blame guys for trying to figure out which way the wind blows can you?
What's wrong with flirting?
Faith how are going to meet a man if you get angry if they approach you ?
Guys flirt to get dates this is how it works
I don't know what you consider normal ?
But i can understand why your single if you behave like this
Sounds like you have issues do to your marriage and divorce. There is no rule you haveto date. I'm not ready to date either.
Have you been going through therapy?
its that i get angry when men approach me in a flirting way
i m not lesbian because i was (MARRIED) and divorce was so fast
a man in the face tried to approach me and i i started to feel annoyed until i blocked him out
i know that there is no rule that says i should date!
but its like that i want to know about my way is it normal? and why do i feel im divorced since long timeIt's not a crime to be alone. Maybe your resentment and annoyance towards men will dissipate with time. But for now, you're content being single and that's perfectly fine too.At some point you must begin to understand that a man who shows interest is not "in your face" because he asks a question.
Assuming adult behavior here much of the crap gets inquired about very early.
You cannot blame guys for trying to figure out which way the wind blows can you?
What's wrong with flirting?
Faith how are going to meet a man if you get angry if they approach you ?
Guys flirt to get dates this is how it works
I don't know what you consider normal ?
But i can understand why your single if you behave like this
Sounds like you have issues do to your marriage and divorce. There is no rule you haveto date. I'm not ready to date either.
Have you been going through therapy?
Can a married couple receive food stamps while living in the wife's parents house?
-Hi everyone. I recently lost my job as a youth pastor, as the church can no longer afford the salary in their budget. So my wife and I had to move into her parents home. We just found out she is pregnant, and we are trying to get all assistance possible. I'm desperately trying to get another job, but currently we're living on her income alone. Is it possible for us to get foodstamp aid? We pay for our own food, as her dad and stepmom are more often in another state where her dad is working under contract. Any advice?Of course you can! As long as her income is low enough. Just fill the paperwork out online. You can even do a phone interview instead of going into the office. They will send you the food stamp card in the mail. She can even get medicaid insurance for her pregnancy. They'll count you as a household of 3 since they count the unborn baby.
I wish you well and hope you can get back on your feet soon! We're in a similar predicament.1. I would not want ANYONE counseling my youth that is stupid enough to get his wife pregnant when he is not even employed. 2. No you cannot simply claim yourselves in the household and collect off hard working people. The parents will be included in the income. 3. Go get a job.
I tried to get assistance myself. Every state has different requirements. You need to call your state assistance program to see if you qualify. Good luck.
I wish you well and hope you can get back on your feet soon! We're in a similar predicament.1. I would not want ANYONE counseling my youth that is stupid enough to get his wife pregnant when he is not even employed. 2. No you cannot simply claim yourselves in the household and collect off hard working people. The parents will be included in the income. 3. Go get a job.
I tried to get assistance myself. Every state has different requirements. You need to call your state assistance program to see if you qualify. Good luck.
Your opinion plz..??//?
-This is more of a question about visitation.I do not get along with my sons father I have tried everything.We fought over visitation and he got what he wanted even though before I proved in court he was a no call no show 8 times.Now he leaves text msgs which I ignore because half of them is him saying bad stuff to me or cussing me out.I have my son ready to go but he does not show up.He will just leave a text that says are you ready like it is my sons phone.I just don't want to talk to him ever again he brings me down and does everything to make my life a living hell.What should I do?Nothing you can do, unless you want to return to court and fight to change the agreement. Just live your life, ignore him and raise your child as best as you can.Get over it.
He has the RIGHT to visitation. He is not obligated to exercise that right. Fighting visitation in court on the basis of him not showing up in the past was a guarantee that he'd win his case... (I have to assume you didn't have a lawyer. A lawyer would have told you this and you could have saved a ton of time, money and emotional energy.)
Whether you get along with him is irrelevant. The reality is that he has the right to no-show at every visitation for the rest of your child's life. Yes, it's a pain for you. But it will teach your child what a loser their father is in a way you would never be able to. And you'll come out smelling like a rose, since you'll have that child prepared to see his daddy at the appointed time, every time...
He has the RIGHT to visitation. He is not obligated to exercise that right. Fighting visitation in court on the basis of him not showing up in the past was a guarantee that he'd win his case... (I have to assume you didn't have a lawyer. A lawyer would have told you this and you could have saved a ton of time, money and emotional energy.)
Whether you get along with him is irrelevant. The reality is that he has the right to no-show at every visitation for the rest of your child's life. Yes, it's a pain for you. But it will teach your child what a loser their father is in a way you would never be able to. And you'll come out smelling like a rose, since you'll have that child prepared to see his daddy at the appointed time, every time...
How can i love again when my heart is not all there but the guy seems really great & caring,sweet & loving?
-JUst gotten out of a relationship where this guy promised he would never leave me. I meet this great guy on the internet & he is really interested in me, but I ' m scared of being heartbroken again . Plz help me I actually like him too. He says he loves me but I am scared to say I love u too ,afraid of him leaving me too. please help me!!!!!!!!!!!!You need to give yourself time to heal.
If this great guy loves you, maybe he will still be around when you are ready to feel the same way about him and take things further.
You shouldn't be putting faith in another person's promise to never leave you. That's not healthy, and the emotional backlash can be severely damaging (as you are experiencing now). Everyone experiences heartbreak at some point and in their own way. It's important to give yourself time to learn and grow from it, and move forward and seek a better relationship rather than continuing the cycle of emotional dependence and hurt. Stop relying on men to make you happy and learn to make yourself happy. The rest will fall into place.
Good luck :)
A bit of caution here: If you only know him from over the internet, don't take everything
he says to be the truth...
You need to spend time with someone in person to know if you love them or not...
If you find out you love someone, enjoy the time you have together,
if it falls apart, you learned something about yourself and relationships..
If we live our life being afraid of being hurt, then we don't live, we just exist..
I know how you feel I was married for 15 years I don't believe in divorce. I did everything to keep the marriage going. We've been separated for 2 years and divorced almost 3 months. Don't know how to get over it.
Nornally I tell people to get a support group of friends and volunteer someplace. I have now been hospitalized myself for 9 weeks. Haveto file for disability hard for me to volunteer when I'm in a nursing home. We have to get over it before we can even move on with our lives.
Warning no one that has never seen you should say I love you if they do they have 1 thing on there mind to get you in bed so be careful.
My sister years ago same thing happened to her he lived across the country. My sister played raquetball she has gone to the world tournaments. She told her friend on the internet that she signed up for a tournament where he lived and asked if they could go out for dinner. Turned out he revealed that he was 15 years older than he said. He was overweight and bald and married with kids. So be very cautious with Internet dating sites.
If you are not ready, then that's all there is to it.
You need the time you need, and also i am going to tell you to meet people in person, on the Internet is ok to begin with, but you have to actually see the man face to face.
If your scared to say you love him..then don't. That's my advice, for what its worth.
A man you just met on the internet who says he loves you is lying.
Honey - a relationship involves face to face meetings with real people, in public.
If you want to see where the relationship goes, get it off-line and onto a real date.
No one can promise to be with you forever, so much can happen that it is just silly to even think it.
You need to meet and see if you click in person, hard to say you love someone and you really do not even know them.
And you need time to re coop from the last break up.
Well, at this stage in time, you can always wish for the best by allowing plenty of time for one another. Take as long as possible to get to know him. Commitment is another issue.
You are a classic case of someone who starting dating again before they were ready. Either let him go or suck it up and let yourself love him completely. If you can't love him completely, let him find someone who will.
give time yourself. be bold, check urself, take decision when u've healthy thoughts ok.
As long as hes name isnt bar. everything is fine.. Lol ironic.. theres a aime mariee on here.
just try.
what.the.hell..
If this great guy loves you, maybe he will still be around when you are ready to feel the same way about him and take things further.
You shouldn't be putting faith in another person's promise to never leave you. That's not healthy, and the emotional backlash can be severely damaging (as you are experiencing now). Everyone experiences heartbreak at some point and in their own way. It's important to give yourself time to learn and grow from it, and move forward and seek a better relationship rather than continuing the cycle of emotional dependence and hurt. Stop relying on men to make you happy and learn to make yourself happy. The rest will fall into place.
Good luck :)
A bit of caution here: If you only know him from over the internet, don't take everything
he says to be the truth...
You need to spend time with someone in person to know if you love them or not...
If you find out you love someone, enjoy the time you have together,
if it falls apart, you learned something about yourself and relationships..
If we live our life being afraid of being hurt, then we don't live, we just exist..
I know how you feel I was married for 15 years I don't believe in divorce. I did everything to keep the marriage going. We've been separated for 2 years and divorced almost 3 months. Don't know how to get over it.
Nornally I tell people to get a support group of friends and volunteer someplace. I have now been hospitalized myself for 9 weeks. Haveto file for disability hard for me to volunteer when I'm in a nursing home. We have to get over it before we can even move on with our lives.
Warning no one that has never seen you should say I love you if they do they have 1 thing on there mind to get you in bed so be careful.
My sister years ago same thing happened to her he lived across the country. My sister played raquetball she has gone to the world tournaments. She told her friend on the internet that she signed up for a tournament where he lived and asked if they could go out for dinner. Turned out he revealed that he was 15 years older than he said. He was overweight and bald and married with kids. So be very cautious with Internet dating sites.
If you are not ready, then that's all there is to it.
You need the time you need, and also i am going to tell you to meet people in person, on the Internet is ok to begin with, but you have to actually see the man face to face.
If your scared to say you love him..then don't. That's my advice, for what its worth.
A man you just met on the internet who says he loves you is lying.
Honey - a relationship involves face to face meetings with real people, in public.
If you want to see where the relationship goes, get it off-line and onto a real date.
No one can promise to be with you forever, so much can happen that it is just silly to even think it.
You need to meet and see if you click in person, hard to say you love someone and you really do not even know them.
And you need time to re coop from the last break up.
Well, at this stage in time, you can always wish for the best by allowing plenty of time for one another. Take as long as possible to get to know him. Commitment is another issue.
You are a classic case of someone who starting dating again before they were ready. Either let him go or suck it up and let yourself love him completely. If you can't love him completely, let him find someone who will.
give time yourself. be bold, check urself, take decision when u've healthy thoughts ok.
As long as hes name isnt bar. everything is fine.. Lol ironic.. theres a aime mariee on here.
just try.
what.the.hell..
What are the basic rules of friends with benefits?
-I think it is a bad idea for a woman to try this. Men can detach themselves and view sex as an act of gratification, i don't think it is so easy for women to do this. I would not advise it.What the first answer is, and
Why would you want to have sex with someone you don't love in the first place?
Women can't hack it. They don't sleep with someone they don't have feelings for. Thus, FWB is really a fallacy...
Don't expect anything.
Don't be needy
Don't expect too much
Don't fall in love
There's really only one rule: Have great sex.
Why would you want to have sex with someone you don't love in the first place?
Women can't hack it. They don't sleep with someone they don't have feelings for. Thus, FWB is really a fallacy...
Don't expect anything.
Don't be needy
Don't expect too much
Don't fall in love
There's really only one rule: Have great sex.
How do I escape an abusive relationship with a five week old baby?
-I have been in a relationship with my partner now for two years. We have a five week old daughter together and he admittedly has anger problems. During the pregnancy I was spat on, pushed, hit in the back and winded and cheated on. Since we have had our daughter things calmed down until recently when I asked him to make her a bottle ready for when she woke up and I got grabbed by the neck, hit in the back till i was winded and chased back up the stairs. I have tried to leave numerous times but because he is type one diabetic he threatens to miss his injections or over dose and kill himself and has recently threatened my dad and grandmother who I am really close to. He will also stand at the bedroom door and make sure I stay there until he thinks I am ready to come out. The only phone we have belongs to him so i cant phone the police and when I go out he comes with me. However, if I say I want to go out alone I get accused of going to see another man and when he goes out he locks me in and takes the keys. I don't no what to do anymore. Does anyone have any advice? I don't want my daughter to be brought up around this!Ask for Help, find a way to leave the place if it's not possible to call 911,..You have to get out of this maltreatment..Don't do this for yourself but for your daughter, hitting is not a privileged in a married life, we were not born just to be hit by other person physically or emotionally..don't be threatened with his acts, be scared for your life and your daughter's..find a way i know you can...Good luck
That's terrible;( If he goes out, run away. Let him overdose, the asshole doesn't deserve to live after hurting a woman. Stab him with a knife, grab your daughter and run to the police. Put some sleeping pills or knock out medicine in his food and when he passes out run. There is nothing wrong with self defense.
There's a lot of help you get, but it's hard to advise or provide websites because we don't know where you are from. You go to a shelter for women, go to the police and tell them you and your child's life are in imitate danger.
Leave. And don't worry if he chooses to overdose or miss his shots or whatever. There is no excuse for what he is doing, not medical, not history, no excuse at all. Get away, take your child and leave. And report to the police that he has made threats. Do it now.
good luck.
You got a computer with internet? Look up the local police and push CONTACT ME...
Give them an address. Leave your address here and now and have one of us call the cops and send them along with your message over.
You should have left long before. Call the police and press charges. It won't be long before he hits your daughter.
Call 9-1-1. They call back and he answers and you scream like you are being murdered...then the cops show up and you have your out.
just pray
first if he is doing this and it is that hard to get the word help out then how did you type this? second if he is saying he will kill him self would that not allow you to move on? third why the hell have you put up with this for two years they have these thing called women shelters go to one.
this being said please leave him better the child not have a dad then have one that hits and beats the mom and maybe even the child one day. i am not saying kill him when i say that it would allow you to move on i am just saying if he did it sounds like it may help you out. i hate saying this but really if he is that stupid then he either needs to be admitted or left to do what he thinks he needs to do.
all in all leave and do not look back!
We in public education, have so let you down.
We used to offer classes in how to marry, how to pick a marriage partner, how to not get pregnant, and when to think about starting a family.
You did it all wrong.... got pregnant by a jerk, and an unhealthy one at that.
In your place, I'd admit my error, take my child, and leave. And if that meant a women's shelter, or under a bridge, fine. And then I'd get some counseling on how to make a better choice., next time.
Women who choose a looser once, will often choose another. It's a pattern, over and over, and over., and a recipe for "How to be poor and stay poor your entire life."
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Why are you even with this person?
My dad did stupid **** like this and my mother left him on the spot. He tried to kill us and even had us at gun point when I was still a baby.
This is illegal, don't stand there and take it. Let him miss the injections, it serves him right. This is serious, get the police involved immediately. Go to a neighbors and ask to use their phone.
Also, how does he lock you in? Go through a window! There's got to be some way out.
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PLEASE update us with what you're going to do, and do it right away. Don't waste any time!
That's terrible;( If he goes out, run away. Let him overdose, the asshole doesn't deserve to live after hurting a woman. Stab him with a knife, grab your daughter and run to the police. Put some sleeping pills or knock out medicine in his food and when he passes out run. There is nothing wrong with self defense.
There's a lot of help you get, but it's hard to advise or provide websites because we don't know where you are from. You go to a shelter for women, go to the police and tell them you and your child's life are in imitate danger.
Leave. And don't worry if he chooses to overdose or miss his shots or whatever. There is no excuse for what he is doing, not medical, not history, no excuse at all. Get away, take your child and leave. And report to the police that he has made threats. Do it now.
good luck.
You got a computer with internet? Look up the local police and push CONTACT ME...
Give them an address. Leave your address here and now and have one of us call the cops and send them along with your message over.
You should have left long before. Call the police and press charges. It won't be long before he hits your daughter.
Call 9-1-1. They call back and he answers and you scream like you are being murdered...then the cops show up and you have your out.
just pray
first if he is doing this and it is that hard to get the word help out then how did you type this? second if he is saying he will kill him self would that not allow you to move on? third why the hell have you put up with this for two years they have these thing called women shelters go to one.
this being said please leave him better the child not have a dad then have one that hits and beats the mom and maybe even the child one day. i am not saying kill him when i say that it would allow you to move on i am just saying if he did it sounds like it may help you out. i hate saying this but really if he is that stupid then he either needs to be admitted or left to do what he thinks he needs to do.
all in all leave and do not look back!
We in public education, have so let you down.
We used to offer classes in how to marry, how to pick a marriage partner, how to not get pregnant, and when to think about starting a family.
You did it all wrong.... got pregnant by a jerk, and an unhealthy one at that.
In your place, I'd admit my error, take my child, and leave. And if that meant a women's shelter, or under a bridge, fine. And then I'd get some counseling on how to make a better choice., next time.
Women who choose a looser once, will often choose another. It's a pattern, over and over, and over., and a recipe for "How to be poor and stay poor your entire life."
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Why are you even with this person?
My dad did stupid **** like this and my mother left him on the spot. He tried to kill us and even had us at gun point when I was still a baby.
This is illegal, don't stand there and take it. Let him miss the injections, it serves him right. This is serious, get the police involved immediately. Go to a neighbors and ask to use their phone.
Also, how does he lock you in? Go through a window! There's got to be some way out.
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PLEASE update us with what you're going to do, and do it right away. Don't waste any time!
Have you ever seen or known an Indian person marry a non-Indian person before?
-If so
1. Was the Indian person a male or female?
2. What race or ethnicity was their partner?
3. Would you say their partner looked good?
4. Did their parents oppose it?
5. Where on earth did such a rare occurrence take place?
oh and by Indian I mean the India kindKnown a lot of cases but males do it more often
1. Yes male
2. Yup, White/Middle Eastern mixed
3. VERY GOOD, way out of his league and the guy didn't look that great himself
4. Not much
5. CaliforniaMy great-great-great-great-great-great-grea鈥?grandmother was Native American and married and English guy, I have no idea what kind they were but i'm pretty sure the parents didn't like it.
My grandma spent a lot of time on an Indian reservation before she died.
Yes.
1) Female, doctor
2) Caucasian, doctor
3) Sure
4) Nope - they were open to it
5) Florida
1. Was the Indian person a male or female?
2. What race or ethnicity was their partner?
3. Would you say their partner looked good?
4. Did their parents oppose it?
5. Where on earth did such a rare occurrence take place?
oh and by Indian I mean the India kindKnown a lot of cases but males do it more often
1. Yes male
2. Yup, White/Middle Eastern mixed
3. VERY GOOD, way out of his league and the guy didn't look that great himself
4. Not much
5. CaliforniaMy great-great-great-great-great-great-grea鈥?grandmother was Native American and married and English guy, I have no idea what kind they were but i'm pretty sure the parents didn't like it.
My grandma spent a lot of time on an Indian reservation before she died.
Yes.
1) Female, doctor
2) Caucasian, doctor
3) Sure
4) Nope - they were open to it
5) Florida
How do I sue my husband mistress that he had a child with and how does he relinquish his parental rights?
-I'm trying to reconcile with my husband. We live in the state of Kansas while the mistress and child live in Florida. My husband and I both decided that if the child is his then he will want to relinquish his parental rights being that she knew he was married and she lied and told him that she was having an abortion. Then out of the blue he receives a e mail (from his mom) saying that she had the child. The kid is 18 months old and my husband of course never signed the birth certificate. The female in Florida harasses me on Facebook, through emails, at one point over the phone. I'm just sick of her and anything that comes from her. My husband and I already have 5 kids together and to try and move forward from this situation this is the best decision for my family. We already know he will get stuck paying child support and that will be alright if this keeps her from contacting him for any reason. He has only seen pictures of this kid never in person.You don't have a case in hell--if it is his. Find out. Why are you with a cheater anyways??? Not only did he do you the very worst WRONG that you can do to a person--now you have this "problem" for the rest of your life. But if you HATE her--you must HATE him. It takes 2 to tangle. Blunt truth--most people don't like it -- but it still needs to be said.
Get a DNA test before anything cuz she could have lied! Secondly, this is all your husbands fault, you must be a strong woman to stick it out. You can hand over his rights but he still has to pay child support I thiink. You can press charges if that lady keeps bothering you.
Only a paternity test will prove he's the father, otherwise he's in the free and clear. Ignore her- when she files motion for a test, then deal with it. In the meantime, block her email and her facebook, it's not that difficult.
The DNA test will reveal the truth, how your husband handles the rest, will be up to him. If anyone is threatening or harassing you, you can make police reports, file charges, block her online.
You can't sue her only because she was the mistress? That's kind of dumb...don't you think? Now...it seems that your main concern is facebook and acting like this child never happened...? I am sure you can block her from facebook but you can't block that there is a child. He doesn't have to "drop the rights" to this child because Florida has some different parental laws. Someone told me that if you aren't on the birth certificate, you have NO rights until its proven in court. She would need to go through the whole court system if none of his info is on the birth certificate and they will definitely require a DNA test and that's if she wants his help. Maybe she doesn't want him in the childs life? And don't call child support as "stuck" its sorta unfair since "the kid" never asked your husband to cheat on you with its mother. Your husband is the one that chose to have SEXUAL RELATIONS with this "female", its just part of the responsibility of unprotected sex. By the way that you are looking at this situtation tho, I hope he does give up full rights. Seems like you can't understand that his "mistake" was a big one, nothing you can sweep under the carpet, as much as you are trying. This is not the old days when kids never figure out what our parents kept from us...its shocking to me that he would cheat on you...five kids and all. Maybe that should tell YOU something no...?
I just think that you need to be less ignorant about this situation...don't worry I am not judging you at all....just want you to know how others can see it...my father cheated on my mother after 23 years of marriage, and got the "mistress" pregnant. And no matter how much my mom tries to cover it up, WE ALL KNOW...and the reminders are there every day. The woman still bothers him regardless...this is someone that no matter what will be in your life from this point on down...you know what I mean...
You need to see a lawyer as terminating parental rights is a difficult process. If he is successful, then he (actually, you guys) will not have to pay child support (as the child is no longer considered his). You may need a lawyer to even determine if it is his kid, if she won't consent to a paternity test. That would be step one though, I guess, establishing paternity. Then you know if you even have a problem or not (cuz a lady who sleeps with married men and lies about having abortions may not be um, monogamous?).
If you're trying to avoid seeing a lawyer, then just ignore her. She lives half a country away. Block her on Facebook and emails and don't answer her calls.
You're blaming HER?? The fact is that it was your husband that got this woman pregnant. HE is the one who had the committment to you, and he broke it! He needs to man up and take care of this child. He sounds like a real piece of work, and it's pretty sad that you are letting him off the hook here and blaming the wrong person. She ought to go after him for child support! He probably made lots of promises to her so he could stay in her pants as long as possible. And do you think she is the only one, now or in the future? I doubt it! How can you ever trust him again?
He cannot relinquish his parental rights. The child has a right to have a father. Public policy will always prevent him from relinquishing his rights. Unless the mother also relinquishes her rights and the child is put up for adoption, he is on the hook for 18+ years. And he should be.
He knew what he was doing.
In America, women have the right to decide whether or not they will carry a pregnancy to term. The man who got her pregnant, your husband, does not have the right to make her agree to have an abortion. Even if she had agreed, this kind of agreement is not a legally binding contract.
You took vows "for better or for worse" and now your husband has chosen to make you eat the "for worse" words.
You must realize that the child is totally innocent and your husband is totally responsible for getting her mother pregnant. He knew that if he either did not sleep with her or used a condom he could have prevented this.
Men know how to not get a woman pregnant. Abstinance works 100% of the time. He knows that. Your husband has no excuse for his behaviour.
You must welcome this child into your family, you really have no choice. She is in your family. Your children have a sister and your husband has a daughter. You do not get to chose.
Please consider how damaging this will be to the child to be thrown away by her father. She needs her father just as much as his other children.
Unless you divorce him, you have to honor your marriage vows to him and help him through this and support the new child. Celebrate her, you don't really have any other choice anyway.
If you try to hurt this child by denying her a relationship with her father, you will have become one of the Cinderella-esque step mothers of the fairy tales. Don't be that way.
First, she will have to prove paternity thru a dna test. The courts would order it. He cannot get out of it if the court orders it.
Once paternity is determined and if the baby is indeed his child, then he would be ordered to pay child support. Each state is different, but a good rule of thumb is 20-25% of your husband's salary would be paid for child support.
There is no way to "relinquish parental rights" unless the child's mother agrees to it. Simply because you and your husband want to give up your parental rights doesn't mean anything. The courts will force him to take financial responsibility for his child.
And lastly, you'd have a hard time "suing" her for anything. Maybe alienation of affection, but since you and your husband are still together, that wouldn't really mean much and no one would believe it. Besides, you seem to have misplaced your "anger"....your husband is the one that stood before you, god and your family and friends and promised to love and honor you. He's the one that did you wrong...not her.
Get a DNA test before anything cuz she could have lied! Secondly, this is all your husbands fault, you must be a strong woman to stick it out. You can hand over his rights but he still has to pay child support I thiink. You can press charges if that lady keeps bothering you.
Only a paternity test will prove he's the father, otherwise he's in the free and clear. Ignore her- when she files motion for a test, then deal with it. In the meantime, block her email and her facebook, it's not that difficult.
The DNA test will reveal the truth, how your husband handles the rest, will be up to him. If anyone is threatening or harassing you, you can make police reports, file charges, block her online.
You can't sue her only because she was the mistress? That's kind of dumb...don't you think? Now...it seems that your main concern is facebook and acting like this child never happened...? I am sure you can block her from facebook but you can't block that there is a child. He doesn't have to "drop the rights" to this child because Florida has some different parental laws. Someone told me that if you aren't on the birth certificate, you have NO rights until its proven in court. She would need to go through the whole court system if none of his info is on the birth certificate and they will definitely require a DNA test and that's if she wants his help. Maybe she doesn't want him in the childs life? And don't call child support as "stuck" its sorta unfair since "the kid" never asked your husband to cheat on you with its mother. Your husband is the one that chose to have SEXUAL RELATIONS with this "female", its just part of the responsibility of unprotected sex. By the way that you are looking at this situtation tho, I hope he does give up full rights. Seems like you can't understand that his "mistake" was a big one, nothing you can sweep under the carpet, as much as you are trying. This is not the old days when kids never figure out what our parents kept from us...its shocking to me that he would cheat on you...five kids and all. Maybe that should tell YOU something no...?
I just think that you need to be less ignorant about this situation...don't worry I am not judging you at all....just want you to know how others can see it...my father cheated on my mother after 23 years of marriage, and got the "mistress" pregnant. And no matter how much my mom tries to cover it up, WE ALL KNOW...and the reminders are there every day. The woman still bothers him regardless...this is someone that no matter what will be in your life from this point on down...you know what I mean...
You need to see a lawyer as terminating parental rights is a difficult process. If he is successful, then he (actually, you guys) will not have to pay child support (as the child is no longer considered his). You may need a lawyer to even determine if it is his kid, if she won't consent to a paternity test. That would be step one though, I guess, establishing paternity. Then you know if you even have a problem or not (cuz a lady who sleeps with married men and lies about having abortions may not be um, monogamous?).
If you're trying to avoid seeing a lawyer, then just ignore her. She lives half a country away. Block her on Facebook and emails and don't answer her calls.
You're blaming HER?? The fact is that it was your husband that got this woman pregnant. HE is the one who had the committment to you, and he broke it! He needs to man up and take care of this child. He sounds like a real piece of work, and it's pretty sad that you are letting him off the hook here and blaming the wrong person. She ought to go after him for child support! He probably made lots of promises to her so he could stay in her pants as long as possible. And do you think she is the only one, now or in the future? I doubt it! How can you ever trust him again?
He cannot relinquish his parental rights. The child has a right to have a father. Public policy will always prevent him from relinquishing his rights. Unless the mother also relinquishes her rights and the child is put up for adoption, he is on the hook for 18+ years. And he should be.
He knew what he was doing.
In America, women have the right to decide whether or not they will carry a pregnancy to term. The man who got her pregnant, your husband, does not have the right to make her agree to have an abortion. Even if she had agreed, this kind of agreement is not a legally binding contract.
You took vows "for better or for worse" and now your husband has chosen to make you eat the "for worse" words.
You must realize that the child is totally innocent and your husband is totally responsible for getting her mother pregnant. He knew that if he either did not sleep with her or used a condom he could have prevented this.
Men know how to not get a woman pregnant. Abstinance works 100% of the time. He knows that. Your husband has no excuse for his behaviour.
You must welcome this child into your family, you really have no choice. She is in your family. Your children have a sister and your husband has a daughter. You do not get to chose.
Please consider how damaging this will be to the child to be thrown away by her father. She needs her father just as much as his other children.
Unless you divorce him, you have to honor your marriage vows to him and help him through this and support the new child. Celebrate her, you don't really have any other choice anyway.
If you try to hurt this child by denying her a relationship with her father, you will have become one of the Cinderella-esque step mothers of the fairy tales. Don't be that way.
First, she will have to prove paternity thru a dna test. The courts would order it. He cannot get out of it if the court orders it.
Once paternity is determined and if the baby is indeed his child, then he would be ordered to pay child support. Each state is different, but a good rule of thumb is 20-25% of your husband's salary would be paid for child support.
There is no way to "relinquish parental rights" unless the child's mother agrees to it. Simply because you and your husband want to give up your parental rights doesn't mean anything. The courts will force him to take financial responsibility for his child.
And lastly, you'd have a hard time "suing" her for anything. Maybe alienation of affection, but since you and your husband are still together, that wouldn't really mean much and no one would believe it. Besides, you seem to have misplaced your "anger"....your husband is the one that stood before you, god and your family and friends and promised to love and honor you. He's the one that did you wrong...not her.
Should I leave my husband?
-My husband talks to me like I am stupid all of the time and makes me look like an idiot. It is not only some of the things he says but how he says it. We have been together for 9 years and have had many "talks" but it is getting to the point where when he isn't being rude, I am just waiting for the punch line the whole time. Now he has recently started asking me to have a threesome with another woman. One of his own friends asks me why I put up with him and that I could do better! We have 2 boys that are 5 and 2 whom do not listen to me at all and I think it is because of the way he talks to me. I also am having to pay for child care to go to the gym and run errands unless I take the kids because he sleeps all day!!! I do not know what to do... I don't want to give up on our marriage but I am tired of putting up with the B.S. What do you all think?He sounds very passive aggressive.
You might consider trying marriage counseling since it doesn't sound like you have anything to lose. A counselor might uncover something in your husband's thinking that could be changed for the better.
I know what you mean about waiting for the next jab. I went through that, and even after my husband made changes for the better it took me five years to really relax.
but u have 2 kids who need father,
if he is bad father so leave him, if he looks after kids but doesnt pay attention to u, it is more or less ok because raising 2 boys alone is more difficult!
why he talks to u like that? it's very strange that he wants other woman.. maybe try to make him busy at home, with kids, with cooking etc..
sorry
Wow loads of women jump on this question like it's ie cream. Am not on your husband side neither on yours because am the type who likes to hear both side. If you see the matter that way then, my question is this; is there anything you're doing that could make your husband feel like your relationship require third lover. I know we men could be sometime be unpredictable at times but, have you talk face to face about this matter because I've never heard this before.
That is a shame the way he treats you. If your not happy with your relationship then do something about it. Nobody deserves to get treated like that. Actions speak louder than words. If you have had many talks and it's not working. Then do something about it and leave him. Find somebody that loves you and treats you how you should be treated.
before leaving do one thing sitt with him and talk about all issues and disscuss hope you will find a way because you have spend 9 years with him, cont just move without trying yo9urself to solve issues between both of you and if you fail to get any responce from him than move on live your life dont wait for him
Dump the loser. You don't say that he's employed but if he isn't and sleeps all day and will not watch after the kids I'd say he's not worth having around. Besides the fact that he belittles you. Find something better.
If its been this way for 9 years, and youve tried talking and letting him know how you feel.Then it should be clear he doesnt respect you.Its up to you if you want to spend the rest of your life with that kind of person.
I think you married a domineering, egotistical, self-centered fart. What the heck do you see in him to make you stay? Don't you respect yourself enough to go?
You don't want to give up on your marriage??? You don't have a marriage.
Dump him. Divorce him. Get child support, alimony and anything else that you can. Then see if he thinks you are stupid.
Sleeps all day?? No no, wake his *ss up girl!! I think you should tell him to respect you cuz your kids aren't listening to you aaannnddd you are his wife!
That would make me fall out of love with someone, and I wouldnt stay with someone i didn't love.
What marriage? Marriage is supposed to be a partnership between two friends and lovers. You should be teammates. Key is you are supposed to be on the same team! You are supposed to support each other, be there for each other no matter what, lift each other up never put each other down. It sounds like he's failing in all of that. It's a terrible example for your children and you already know that. That and he wants to cheat, if he hasn't already. Take the advice of his own friend--stop putting up with him and leave. You CAN do better.
Self-Esteem is a SELF ASSESSMENT. Only you can control how you look or react to interactions with other people including your husband.
So you look, sound & are behaving "like an idiot". Make sure to evaluate the rest of YOUR behavior because it would appear that you now have a parent-child relationship in your marriage. I highly suspect you are being treated like a child because you act like a child.
I think it is childish to ask total strangers "what to do" rather than communicating directly with your husband. WE out here cannot change YOU or your husband (whom you have conveniently left out of this loop). Either get to counselling with him OR immaturely initiate a divorce behind his back (while being egged on by the other immature women here). Your choice, but at least OWN your part in it.
If he knows how you feel and time and time again you tell him but he doesn't do anything about it, then he doesn't respect you. It does sound like you deserve better then that. 9 years is a long time and you do have two kids to think about, but that isn't a reason to stay in an unhappy marriage. If your kids are seeing him disrespecting you, then they will start talking to you the same way. You shouldn't be a doormat. Give him an ultimatum and stick to it. If he doesn't sort himself out, then your done. If he does truly love you then he will get his **** into gear. If not, then at least you know now and you move on from him. Good luck
I am married and i have two boys around the age where your boys are. And i think you should divorce with your husband my wife was acting the same way and my kids where being bad and not listening and when we got a divorce i got to keep my kids and they grew respect for me now i am re-married and i love it my new wife is nice and caring and loves my kids and now we have two identical twin baby girls and they are the most precious things i have ever seen in my life. take it from me if your husband is disrespecting you then you are not respecting yourself by putting up with him. I hope this helped
Before you leave him, record him.
Buy recording devices, audio and video if you can. Record his rants against you. Record him belittling you and calling you names.
Then, with the audio and video in hand, go to an attorney. You should be able to get a divorce on grounds of abuse and you will get more alimony and more child support.
Children have happy childhoods only if they are raised by happy parents. As long as you are miserable, you cannot be as good of a mother as you would have been able to be if you were happy.
You do not need to worry about wiretapping, because you can record things he says to you directly in person. People will have a hard time believing how nasty he is unless they hear it themselves, so go to the store and buy the recording devices.
You might consider trying marriage counseling since it doesn't sound like you have anything to lose. A counselor might uncover something in your husband's thinking that could be changed for the better.
I know what you mean about waiting for the next jab. I went through that, and even after my husband made changes for the better it took me five years to really relax.
but u have 2 kids who need father,
if he is bad father so leave him, if he looks after kids but doesnt pay attention to u, it is more or less ok because raising 2 boys alone is more difficult!
why he talks to u like that? it's very strange that he wants other woman.. maybe try to make him busy at home, with kids, with cooking etc..
sorry
Wow loads of women jump on this question like it's ie cream. Am not on your husband side neither on yours because am the type who likes to hear both side. If you see the matter that way then, my question is this; is there anything you're doing that could make your husband feel like your relationship require third lover. I know we men could be sometime be unpredictable at times but, have you talk face to face about this matter because I've never heard this before.
That is a shame the way he treats you. If your not happy with your relationship then do something about it. Nobody deserves to get treated like that. Actions speak louder than words. If you have had many talks and it's not working. Then do something about it and leave him. Find somebody that loves you and treats you how you should be treated.
before leaving do one thing sitt with him and talk about all issues and disscuss hope you will find a way because you have spend 9 years with him, cont just move without trying yo9urself to solve issues between both of you and if you fail to get any responce from him than move on live your life dont wait for him
Dump the loser. You don't say that he's employed but if he isn't and sleeps all day and will not watch after the kids I'd say he's not worth having around. Besides the fact that he belittles you. Find something better.
If its been this way for 9 years, and youve tried talking and letting him know how you feel.Then it should be clear he doesnt respect you.Its up to you if you want to spend the rest of your life with that kind of person.
I think you married a domineering, egotistical, self-centered fart. What the heck do you see in him to make you stay? Don't you respect yourself enough to go?
You don't want to give up on your marriage??? You don't have a marriage.
Dump him. Divorce him. Get child support, alimony and anything else that you can. Then see if he thinks you are stupid.
Sleeps all day?? No no, wake his *ss up girl!! I think you should tell him to respect you cuz your kids aren't listening to you aaannnddd you are his wife!
That would make me fall out of love with someone, and I wouldnt stay with someone i didn't love.
What marriage? Marriage is supposed to be a partnership between two friends and lovers. You should be teammates. Key is you are supposed to be on the same team! You are supposed to support each other, be there for each other no matter what, lift each other up never put each other down. It sounds like he's failing in all of that. It's a terrible example for your children and you already know that. That and he wants to cheat, if he hasn't already. Take the advice of his own friend--stop putting up with him and leave. You CAN do better.
Self-Esteem is a SELF ASSESSMENT. Only you can control how you look or react to interactions with other people including your husband.
So you look, sound & are behaving "like an idiot". Make sure to evaluate the rest of YOUR behavior because it would appear that you now have a parent-child relationship in your marriage. I highly suspect you are being treated like a child because you act like a child.
I think it is childish to ask total strangers "what to do" rather than communicating directly with your husband. WE out here cannot change YOU or your husband (whom you have conveniently left out of this loop). Either get to counselling with him OR immaturely initiate a divorce behind his back (while being egged on by the other immature women here). Your choice, but at least OWN your part in it.
If he knows how you feel and time and time again you tell him but he doesn't do anything about it, then he doesn't respect you. It does sound like you deserve better then that. 9 years is a long time and you do have two kids to think about, but that isn't a reason to stay in an unhappy marriage. If your kids are seeing him disrespecting you, then they will start talking to you the same way. You shouldn't be a doormat. Give him an ultimatum and stick to it. If he doesn't sort himself out, then your done. If he does truly love you then he will get his **** into gear. If not, then at least you know now and you move on from him. Good luck
I am married and i have two boys around the age where your boys are. And i think you should divorce with your husband my wife was acting the same way and my kids where being bad and not listening and when we got a divorce i got to keep my kids and they grew respect for me now i am re-married and i love it my new wife is nice and caring and loves my kids and now we have two identical twin baby girls and they are the most precious things i have ever seen in my life. take it from me if your husband is disrespecting you then you are not respecting yourself by putting up with him. I hope this helped
Before you leave him, record him.
Buy recording devices, audio and video if you can. Record his rants against you. Record him belittling you and calling you names.
Then, with the audio and video in hand, go to an attorney. You should be able to get a divorce on grounds of abuse and you will get more alimony and more child support.
Children have happy childhoods only if they are raised by happy parents. As long as you are miserable, you cannot be as good of a mother as you would have been able to be if you were happy.
You do not need to worry about wiretapping, because you can record things he says to you directly in person. People will have a hard time believing how nasty he is unless they hear it themselves, so go to the store and buy the recording devices.
Does it mean anything?
-My Husband and I have been married for 3 years and ive always been happy and I really try to make him happy. The other day he went golfing with his friends and then they came over to our house. I was upstairs cleaning and stuff but I heard them and all they did is joke about marriage and its misery and stuff. Including my husband!!!! He made plenty of jokes about how miserable it is and it really hurt me. I just sat on our bed and cried until he came in and saw me and asked me what was wrong. I told him I heard what he said about marriage and stuff and then he sat next to me told me he was with the guys and they were just kidding and gave me a kiss on the forehead. Was it really just joking or do guys always just joke about this kind of thing.Male bravado is cruel and insensitive, lots of men behave this way when they with male friends, what is important is how he treats you and how he generally makes you feel, is he loving and caring toward you, if so then you got nothing to worry bout, if not then id say its time to look more deeply at your relationship, good luck.
Unless you heard him mention specific details from your marriage, he was just trying to fit in with the guys. No man likes to admit to their friends that they're happy in their marriage. Its a macho thing.
He's just being a guy and you're being a woman to the extreme. Try to control those hormones and act reasonable. You should hear the guff my husband got when he asked for time off work for our wedding.
you need to get out more. People complain about marriage ALL the time.
I don't think you have anything to worry about but I can understand why it hurt your feelings.
OMG!!!!! He was chillin with the guys....relax...he didn't mean to hurt you...This conversation was NOT meant for your ears...chill out.
Unless you heard him mention specific details from your marriage, he was just trying to fit in with the guys. No man likes to admit to their friends that they're happy in their marriage. Its a macho thing.
He's just being a guy and you're being a woman to the extreme. Try to control those hormones and act reasonable. You should hear the guff my husband got when he asked for time off work for our wedding.
you need to get out more. People complain about marriage ALL the time.
I don't think you have anything to worry about but I can understand why it hurt your feelings.
OMG!!!!! He was chillin with the guys....relax...he didn't mean to hurt you...This conversation was NOT meant for your ears...chill out.
Since I have already surprised my fiancee by modeling a silky baby doll nighty & ruffly undies haven't I given?
-her enough notice that I really like women's lingerie and that there maybe many more funny moments ahead ?
She really got a great laugh out of it and made me keep it for pics, so do I really need to say anymore on the subject?maybe your name should be "Bi" Curious?yes
you need to make it clear to her that his is a normal part of your life
not a once and awhile thing
peace
She really got a great laugh out of it and made me keep it for pics, so do I really need to say anymore on the subject?maybe your name should be "Bi" Curious?yes
you need to make it clear to her that his is a normal part of your life
not a once and awhile thing
peace
Whats the negative things with living with someone?
-Whats the downfall rather than the positive side?- sharing space
- they may not have the same habits as you when it comes to being clean, or not clean
- they may start using things that belong to you that you did not give them permission to, and vice versa
- stress from handling different opinions and ideas other than just your own
- money, who pays for what and when
Things just get more complicated when you live with someone, but it doesn't necessarily mean it will be negative, it can be a positive experience if you both have the same understanding of what is expected of each other.
If you haven't been together long enough and don't have a strong enough connection on both sides it will tear you apart.
It takes away the whole magical puppy love feelings and newness of the person because you are always with them and become used to them, you have no privacy, you get bored of being around each other easier, it's a big hassle if you haven't been together long enough because all of these things matter in the beginning, it's really a big step to take.
Also if you ever break up, who moves out? When? It can get messy!
No privacy, you cant really just go off and do your own thing without a million questions, even if you go into another room just to get some alone time it becomes " are you okay? are you mad at me?" and when you spend to much time with someone that person starts to get on your nerves.
If you live together before getting married. The divorce rate is higher.
If your religious. Most religions are opposed to it.
You don't get as much taxes back as if you were married.
The downfall is one may want to have the next step commitment, which would be marriage and the other might be happy with things the way they are.
If your a guy not many ?
She will mention the toilet seat clothes left on the floor
How much time you spend playing games ?
But apart from that you will have it easy ?
Everybody poops.
no more PERSONAL space...
hard to escape
- they may not have the same habits as you when it comes to being clean, or not clean
- they may start using things that belong to you that you did not give them permission to, and vice versa
- stress from handling different opinions and ideas other than just your own
- money, who pays for what and when
Things just get more complicated when you live with someone, but it doesn't necessarily mean it will be negative, it can be a positive experience if you both have the same understanding of what is expected of each other.
If you haven't been together long enough and don't have a strong enough connection on both sides it will tear you apart.
It takes away the whole magical puppy love feelings and newness of the person because you are always with them and become used to them, you have no privacy, you get bored of being around each other easier, it's a big hassle if you haven't been together long enough because all of these things matter in the beginning, it's really a big step to take.
Also if you ever break up, who moves out? When? It can get messy!
No privacy, you cant really just go off and do your own thing without a million questions, even if you go into another room just to get some alone time it becomes " are you okay? are you mad at me?" and when you spend to much time with someone that person starts to get on your nerves.
If you live together before getting married. The divorce rate is higher.
If your religious. Most religions are opposed to it.
You don't get as much taxes back as if you were married.
The downfall is one may want to have the next step commitment, which would be marriage and the other might be happy with things the way they are.
If your a guy not many ?
She will mention the toilet seat clothes left on the floor
How much time you spend playing games ?
But apart from that you will have it easy ?
Everybody poops.
no more PERSONAL space...
hard to escape
Do husbands like to keep their wives fat?
-I'm curious because before I met my husband I was 5'1,115 lbs with everything proportional while wearing a size 3. I was hot and every single coworker of my husband would always tell him how lucky a redneck like him could marry an exotic beauty like me. However after a year of marriage, my face is still the same but I have ballooned up to 135 lbs! I have never weighted that much in my life, and I am almost a size 7! My husband still says how attractive he is to me, but is it possible he wants me to be this big?
I can't lose any weight currently because I am 4 months pregnant, but before I weighted 135. OmgNice blame trip on your husband. It's usually the sendentary (couch potato) lifestyle you fall into when living together, not your partner's fault.
How is your husband's weight doing? Suggest you both start eating better, healthier, and start getting off the couch more and exercising.
Unless he has a 'fat girl fetish', which is unlikely because he was attracted to you initially at 115, he has very little to do with your weight. You do.
I've heard men say that they'd be afraid to lose their wives if they lost weight and gained self confidence... but it's because they have insecurities of their own.
But you're in control of YOUR body! Get yourself down to the size where YOU feel comfortable. If you're unhappy with the way you are, it's only going to drag you down and eventually lower your self esteem to where you don't think you'll ever change.
Honestly, I think most men like a woman to stay as close to what they married. So if your husband liked you at 115 then he probably wants you to return to that after the baby is born.
Many men lie to keep the sex life going. As they would rather have sex with you at almost any weight then no sex at all.
I would have to say "No" on that one! You have a good guy there. To me, it always seemed that the woman stopped caring about herself, once she got married. Its funny how they all seem to loose it once they get a divorce!
Husbands don't keep their wives fat--you choose to stuff food in your pie hole. If your husband impregnated you, then he obviously doesn't care that you eat so much.
Four months pregnant? The little tyke must weigh all of a half a pound by now.
Chances are he likes the fact that you have curves, instead of being sickly and thin.
Hmmmm.... just a thought - I wonder if the fact that your PREGNANT has anything to do with gaining weight.. just a thought.
um 135 is not fat.
You're not fat you're pregnant.
prehaps you should be asking your husband!!
I like to keep my wife's belly full.
That's my job as a husband and a man.
We prefer the term "cuddly".
i like mine skinny
In some cases its possible. perhaps they are scared of losing you and want you to put on lbs so no other guys will give you as much attention.
Its more likely though that he just loves you for you and being in the relationship sometimes people slack off on exercise / being active and do a lot of sitting around eating badly and the lbs just add on. Or your metabolism slows down etc.. After your baby just make sure you do some daily workouts/running etc.. cardio will keep most of your weight off if you have a high metabolism. Lack of exercise especially after having a child will just keep you blowing up though.
Ha ha I'm the same!
I was a size 12-14 and I'm a size 18-20 now but my Husband LOVES me!
He just can't get enough of my hourglass figure and my curvaceous body!
I guess when you're in a relationship with someone who loves you as you are and not what you look like you tend to let yourself go because you're not "on the scene" anymore.
It's different when you're single and trying to pull because looks matter before anything else-obviously!
How can you become attracted to someone personally if you've never met them before?
It's just the way things go =)
He loves you so what's the problem?
You're still the beautiful woman he fell in love with!
I can't lose any weight currently because I am 4 months pregnant, but before I weighted 135. OmgNice blame trip on your husband. It's usually the sendentary (couch potato) lifestyle you fall into when living together, not your partner's fault.
How is your husband's weight doing? Suggest you both start eating better, healthier, and start getting off the couch more and exercising.
Unless he has a 'fat girl fetish', which is unlikely because he was attracted to you initially at 115, he has very little to do with your weight. You do.
I've heard men say that they'd be afraid to lose their wives if they lost weight and gained self confidence... but it's because they have insecurities of their own.
But you're in control of YOUR body! Get yourself down to the size where YOU feel comfortable. If you're unhappy with the way you are, it's only going to drag you down and eventually lower your self esteem to where you don't think you'll ever change.
Honestly, I think most men like a woman to stay as close to what they married. So if your husband liked you at 115 then he probably wants you to return to that after the baby is born.
Many men lie to keep the sex life going. As they would rather have sex with you at almost any weight then no sex at all.
I would have to say "No" on that one! You have a good guy there. To me, it always seemed that the woman stopped caring about herself, once she got married. Its funny how they all seem to loose it once they get a divorce!
Husbands don't keep their wives fat--you choose to stuff food in your pie hole. If your husband impregnated you, then he obviously doesn't care that you eat so much.
Four months pregnant? The little tyke must weigh all of a half a pound by now.
Chances are he likes the fact that you have curves, instead of being sickly and thin.
Hmmmm.... just a thought - I wonder if the fact that your PREGNANT has anything to do with gaining weight.. just a thought.
um 135 is not fat.
You're not fat you're pregnant.
prehaps you should be asking your husband!!
I like to keep my wife's belly full.
That's my job as a husband and a man.
We prefer the term "cuddly".
i like mine skinny
In some cases its possible. perhaps they are scared of losing you and want you to put on lbs so no other guys will give you as much attention.
Its more likely though that he just loves you for you and being in the relationship sometimes people slack off on exercise / being active and do a lot of sitting around eating badly and the lbs just add on. Or your metabolism slows down etc.. After your baby just make sure you do some daily workouts/running etc.. cardio will keep most of your weight off if you have a high metabolism. Lack of exercise especially after having a child will just keep you blowing up though.
Ha ha I'm the same!
I was a size 12-14 and I'm a size 18-20 now but my Husband LOVES me!
He just can't get enough of my hourglass figure and my curvaceous body!
I guess when you're in a relationship with someone who loves you as you are and not what you look like you tend to let yourself go because you're not "on the scene" anymore.
It's different when you're single and trying to pull because looks matter before anything else-obviously!
How can you become attracted to someone personally if you've never met them before?
It's just the way things go =)
He loves you so what's the problem?
You're still the beautiful woman he fell in love with!
Can i marry my cousin?
-According to hindu marriage act can i marry my mother's cousin brother's daughter.v both r in deep love.also need a legal advice tht how can v register our marriage.Dear Buddy,
As far as possible never marry a relative. This is being followed in North India very strictly. However, when it comes to South India, it is not followed. Choice is yours.
The problem shall be there with the children (may be eye sight issue, lack of strength or some sort of deformity) and it is likely.
When it comes to registering marriage, just give a 30 days notice to the Registrar Office your are that you both are going to get married. Have two witnesses each from her / your side.
Best of Luck.
Regards & May God Bless
G Senthil Iyappan
Just read and understand:-
Degree of Prohibited Relationship
1. Mother
2. Father's widow (step-mother)
3. Mother's mother
4. Mother's father's widow (step grand-mother)
5. Mother's mother's mother
6. Mother's mother's father's widow (step-great-grandmother)
7. Mother's father's mother
8. Mother's father's father's widow (step-great-grandmother)
9. Father's mother
10. Father's father's widow (step-grandmother)
11. Father's mother's mother
12. Father's mother's father's widow (step-great-grandmother)
13. Father's father's mother
14. Father's father's father's widow (step-great-grandmother)
15. Daughter
16. Son's widow
17. Daughter's daughter
18. Daughter's son's widow
19. Son's daughter
20. Son's son's widow
21. Daughter's daughter's daughter
22. Daughter's daughter's son's widow
23. Daughter's son's daughter
24. Daughter's son's son's widow
25. Son's daughter's daughter
26. Son's daughter's son's widow
27. Son's son's daughter
28. Son's son's son's widow
29. Sister
30. Sister's daughter
31. Brother's daughter
32. Mother's sister
33.Father's sister
34. Father's brother's daughter
35. Father's sister's daughter
36. Mother's sister's-daughter
37. Mother's brother's daughter
Explanation.- For the purposes of this Part, the expression "widow" includes a divorced wife.
PART II
1. Father
2. Mother's husband (step-father)
3. Father's father
4. Father's mother's husband (step-grandmother)
5. Father's father's father
6. Father's father's mother's husband (step-great-grandfather)
7. Father's mother's father
8. Father's mother's mother's husband (step-great-grandfather)
9. Mother's father
10. Mother's mother's husband (step-grandfather)
11. Mother's father's father
12. Mother's father's mother's husband (step-great-grandfather)
13. Mother's mother's father
14. Mother's mother's mother's husband(step-great-grandfather)
15. Son
16. Daughter's husband
17. Son's son
18. Son's daughter's husband
19. Daughter's son
20. Daughter's daughter's husband
21. Son's son's son
22. Son's son's daughter's husband
23. Son's daughter's son
24. Son's daughter's daughter's husband
25. Daughter's son's son
26. Daughter's son's daughter's husband
27. Daughter's daughter's son
28. Daughter's daughter's daughter's husband
29. Brother
30. Brother's son
31. Sister's son
32. Mother's brother
33. Father's brother
34. Father's brother's son
35. Father's sister's son
36. Mother's sister's son
37. Mother's brother's son
the legal implication actually does not matter.
What matters most, is the children's you both will have.
The both of you have gens that are too close
This will lead to inbreeding problems.
Birth defects.
(Go google it)
You can marry your first cousin in Nevada, Ohio, Kentucky, Indiana, Wisconsin, and Washington.
Even if your marriage is legal talk to doctor or research about your future children. I read somewhere that if you produce children with a blood relative your children will have health risks.
Sorry you can't marry your cousin. You both are like brother and sister. Truth is hard but you have to accept it and just move on in life. Don't worry you will find another one.
So many other people out there, it got to be your damn cousin. Is it that good so you have to keep it in the damn family.
There was one time where i wanted to marry my cosin but her and my parents well they just laugh at us , we were very close growing up ! havent seen her now in years ! she was at the time doing really good in her life , im glad Amen !
yes you can marry. Legally you are allowed i know in certain casts within hindus you are allowed to marry.
you incest? You couldnt find a non-relative to marry? She is your third cousin so yes you can marry her.
Ek kaam karo bhaag kar shadi kar lo.....! there are no any other options ...your can change your city and after some month you both marriage. then matter will be staid.
THATS DISGUSTING...GET REAL!!!!!!!!!!!!
This is incest. If you want to still do it, become a muslim
As far as possible never marry a relative. This is being followed in North India very strictly. However, when it comes to South India, it is not followed. Choice is yours.
The problem shall be there with the children (may be eye sight issue, lack of strength or some sort of deformity) and it is likely.
When it comes to registering marriage, just give a 30 days notice to the Registrar Office your are that you both are going to get married. Have two witnesses each from her / your side.
Best of Luck.
Regards & May God Bless
G Senthil Iyappan
Just read and understand:-
Degree of Prohibited Relationship
1. Mother
2. Father's widow (step-mother)
3. Mother's mother
4. Mother's father's widow (step grand-mother)
5. Mother's mother's mother
6. Mother's mother's father's widow (step-great-grandmother)
7. Mother's father's mother
8. Mother's father's father's widow (step-great-grandmother)
9. Father's mother
10. Father's father's widow (step-grandmother)
11. Father's mother's mother
12. Father's mother's father's widow (step-great-grandmother)
13. Father's father's mother
14. Father's father's father's widow (step-great-grandmother)
15. Daughter
16. Son's widow
17. Daughter's daughter
18. Daughter's son's widow
19. Son's daughter
20. Son's son's widow
21. Daughter's daughter's daughter
22. Daughter's daughter's son's widow
23. Daughter's son's daughter
24. Daughter's son's son's widow
25. Son's daughter's daughter
26. Son's daughter's son's widow
27. Son's son's daughter
28. Son's son's son's widow
29. Sister
30. Sister's daughter
31. Brother's daughter
32. Mother's sister
33.Father's sister
34. Father's brother's daughter
35. Father's sister's daughter
36. Mother's sister's-daughter
37. Mother's brother's daughter
Explanation.- For the purposes of this Part, the expression "widow" includes a divorced wife.
PART II
1. Father
2. Mother's husband (step-father)
3. Father's father
4. Father's mother's husband (step-grandmother)
5. Father's father's father
6. Father's father's mother's husband (step-great-grandfather)
7. Father's mother's father
8. Father's mother's mother's husband (step-great-grandfather)
9. Mother's father
10. Mother's mother's husband (step-grandfather)
11. Mother's father's father
12. Mother's father's mother's husband (step-great-grandfather)
13. Mother's mother's father
14. Mother's mother's mother's husband(step-great-grandfather)
15. Son
16. Daughter's husband
17. Son's son
18. Son's daughter's husband
19. Daughter's son
20. Daughter's daughter's husband
21. Son's son's son
22. Son's son's daughter's husband
23. Son's daughter's son
24. Son's daughter's daughter's husband
25. Daughter's son's son
26. Daughter's son's daughter's husband
27. Daughter's daughter's son
28. Daughter's daughter's daughter's husband
29. Brother
30. Brother's son
31. Sister's son
32. Mother's brother
33. Father's brother
34. Father's brother's son
35. Father's sister's son
36. Mother's sister's son
37. Mother's brother's son
the legal implication actually does not matter.
What matters most, is the children's you both will have.
The both of you have gens that are too close
This will lead to inbreeding problems.
Birth defects.
(Go google it)
You can marry your first cousin in Nevada, Ohio, Kentucky, Indiana, Wisconsin, and Washington.
Even if your marriage is legal talk to doctor or research about your future children. I read somewhere that if you produce children with a blood relative your children will have health risks.
Sorry you can't marry your cousin. You both are like brother and sister. Truth is hard but you have to accept it and just move on in life. Don't worry you will find another one.
So many other people out there, it got to be your damn cousin. Is it that good so you have to keep it in the damn family.
There was one time where i wanted to marry my cosin but her and my parents well they just laugh at us , we were very close growing up ! havent seen her now in years ! she was at the time doing really good in her life , im glad Amen !
yes you can marry. Legally you are allowed i know in certain casts within hindus you are allowed to marry.
you incest? You couldnt find a non-relative to marry? She is your third cousin so yes you can marry her.
Ek kaam karo bhaag kar shadi kar lo.....! there are no any other options ...your can change your city and after some month you both marriage. then matter will be staid.
THATS DISGUSTING...GET REAL!!!!!!!!!!!!
This is incest. If you want to still do it, become a muslim
How can i love again when my heart is not all there but the guy seems really great & caring,sweet & loving?
-JUst gotten out of a relationship where this guy promised he would never leave me. I meet this great guy on the internet & he is really interested in me, but I ' m scared of being heartbroken again . Plz help me I actually like him too. He says he loves me but I am scared to say I love u too ,afraid of him leaving me too. please help me!!!!!!!!!!!!You need to give yourself time to heal.
If this great guy loves you, maybe he will still be around when you are ready to feel the same way about him and take things further.
You shouldn't be putting faith in another person's promise to never leave you. That's not healthy, and the emotional backlash can be severely damaging (as you are experiencing now). Everyone experiences heartbreak at some point and in their own way. It's important to give yourself time to learn and grow from it, and move forward and seek a better relationship rather than continuing the cycle of emotional dependence and hurt. Stop relying on men to make you happy and learn to make yourself happy. The rest will fall into place.
Good luck :)
A bit of caution here: If you only know him from over the internet, don't take everything
he says to be the truth...
You need to spend time with someone in person to know if you love them or not...
If you find out you love someone, enjoy the time you have together,
if it falls apart, you learned something about yourself and relationships..
If we live our life being afraid of being hurt, then we don't live, we just exist..
I know how you feel I was married for 15 years I don't believe in divorce. I did everything to keep the marriage going. We've been separated for 2 years and divorced almost 3 months. Don't know how to get over it.
Nornally I tell people to get a support group of friends and volunteer someplace. I have now been hospitalized myself for 9 weeks. Haveto file for disability hard for me to volunteer when I'm in a nursing home. We have to get over it before we can even move on with our lives.
Warning no one that has never seen you should say I love you if they do they have 1 thing on there mind to get you in bed so be careful.
My sister years ago same thing happened to her he lived across the country. My sister played raquetball she has gone to the world tournaments. She told her friend on the internet that she signed up for a tournament where he lived and asked if they could go out for dinner. Turned out he revealed that he was 15 years older than he said. He was overweight and bald and married with kids. So be very cautious with Internet dating sites.
If you are not ready, then that's all there is to it.
You need the time you need, and also i am going to tell you to meet people in person, on the Internet is ok to begin with, but you have to actually see the man face to face.
If your scared to say you love him..then don't. That's my advice, for what its worth.
A man you just met on the internet who says he loves you is lying.
Honey - a relationship involves face to face meetings with real people, in public.
If you want to see where the relationship goes, get it off-line and onto a real date.
No one can promise to be with you forever, so much can happen that it is just silly to even think it.
You need to meet and see if you click in person, hard to say you love someone and you really do not even know them.
And you need time to re coop from the last break up.
Well, at this stage in time, you can always wish for the best by allowing plenty of time for one another. Take as long as possible to get to know him. Commitment is another issue.
You are a classic case of someone who starting dating again before they were ready. Either let him go or suck it up and let yourself love him completely. If you can't love him completely, let him find someone who will.
give time yourself. be bold, check urself, take decision when u've healthy thoughts ok.
As long as hes name isnt bar. everything is fine.. Lol ironic.. theres a aime mariee on here.
just try.
what.the.hell..
If this great guy loves you, maybe he will still be around when you are ready to feel the same way about him and take things further.
You shouldn't be putting faith in another person's promise to never leave you. That's not healthy, and the emotional backlash can be severely damaging (as you are experiencing now). Everyone experiences heartbreak at some point and in their own way. It's important to give yourself time to learn and grow from it, and move forward and seek a better relationship rather than continuing the cycle of emotional dependence and hurt. Stop relying on men to make you happy and learn to make yourself happy. The rest will fall into place.
Good luck :)
A bit of caution here: If you only know him from over the internet, don't take everything
he says to be the truth...
You need to spend time with someone in person to know if you love them or not...
If you find out you love someone, enjoy the time you have together,
if it falls apart, you learned something about yourself and relationships..
If we live our life being afraid of being hurt, then we don't live, we just exist..
I know how you feel I was married for 15 years I don't believe in divorce. I did everything to keep the marriage going. We've been separated for 2 years and divorced almost 3 months. Don't know how to get over it.
Nornally I tell people to get a support group of friends and volunteer someplace. I have now been hospitalized myself for 9 weeks. Haveto file for disability hard for me to volunteer when I'm in a nursing home. We have to get over it before we can even move on with our lives.
Warning no one that has never seen you should say I love you if they do they have 1 thing on there mind to get you in bed so be careful.
My sister years ago same thing happened to her he lived across the country. My sister played raquetball she has gone to the world tournaments. She told her friend on the internet that she signed up for a tournament where he lived and asked if they could go out for dinner. Turned out he revealed that he was 15 years older than he said. He was overweight and bald and married with kids. So be very cautious with Internet dating sites.
If you are not ready, then that's all there is to it.
You need the time you need, and also i am going to tell you to meet people in person, on the Internet is ok to begin with, but you have to actually see the man face to face.
If your scared to say you love him..then don't. That's my advice, for what its worth.
A man you just met on the internet who says he loves you is lying.
Honey - a relationship involves face to face meetings with real people, in public.
If you want to see where the relationship goes, get it off-line and onto a real date.
No one can promise to be with you forever, so much can happen that it is just silly to even think it.
You need to meet and see if you click in person, hard to say you love someone and you really do not even know them.
And you need time to re coop from the last break up.
Well, at this stage in time, you can always wish for the best by allowing plenty of time for one another. Take as long as possible to get to know him. Commitment is another issue.
You are a classic case of someone who starting dating again before they were ready. Either let him go or suck it up and let yourself love him completely. If you can't love him completely, let him find someone who will.
give time yourself. be bold, check urself, take decision when u've healthy thoughts ok.
As long as hes name isnt bar. everything is fine.. Lol ironic.. theres a aime mariee on here.
just try.
what.the.hell..
Is it true that if you treat your mom bad you'll treat your wife bad?
-My mom is very illogical and kind of crazy. She gets in fits easily and won't pay attention and when i try to reason with her she shuts me down and i get really pissed and sometimes i blow up on her. I also sometimes nag and get pissed and blow up randomly but i realize this is bad and if its very hurtful or a really bad blowup i always apologize the same day- and i mean it. My little brother is also the same way so is my stepdad. I'm 17. Does that mean i'll treat my wife like crap too or is it just my mom's personality?it is just the absolutely the true fact
Family divorce!?!?!?!?
-alright so during my divorce there has been a TON of facebook harassment and facebook insults and shots taken at me that i ignore but my friends continue to tell me about because of how harsh and embarassing they are. and in our new decree it states this.
Stating my wife has "nice backfat, she's huge!!" blah blah, stating "maybe i should just become a shitbag parent and i can get what i want!! the judicial system is F'ED UP!!!!!!!!!!!!"
also stating that the child support they pay me wil just come right back to them since we have to split medical bills and we have to pay for counseling that we can't afford... i take this as threats that they are going to do wahtever they can to cause me to spend unnecessary money that could be spent on things the children actually need
"Disturbing the peace of the minor children or of any other party in person, by telephone or in writing, whether by electronic means or otherwise"
would you think that means that disturbing the peace would be taking shots or intentionally bad mouthing me, assuming you're going to get a reaction that you can try and take criminal action by? or am i mis-understanding this. could somebody please give me a good definition and some advice? I AM ALSO FINDING ALL THIS INFO OUT THROUGH A 3RD PARTY, I NO LONGER HAVE MY FACEBOOK, AND COME TO FIND OUT MY REPUTATION IS BEING BASHED AND PEOPLE WHO TAKE OFFENSE TO THE HORRIBLE THINGS THEY ARE SAYING ABOUT ME ARE TELLING ME THEMSELVES.
Stating my wife has "nice backfat, she's huge!!" blah blah, stating "maybe i should just become a shitbag parent and i can get what i want!! the judicial system is F'ED UP!!!!!!!!!!!!"
also stating that the child support they pay me wil just come right back to them since we have to split medical bills and we have to pay for counseling that we can't afford... i take this as threats that they are going to do wahtever they can to cause me to spend unnecessary money that could be spent on things the children actually need
"Disturbing the peace of the minor children or of any other party in person, by telephone or in writing, whether by electronic means or otherwise"
would you think that means that disturbing the peace would be taking shots or intentionally bad mouthing me, assuming you're going to get a reaction that you can try and take criminal action by? or am i mis-understanding this. could somebody please give me a good definition and some advice? I AM ALSO FINDING ALL THIS INFO OUT THROUGH A 3RD PARTY, I NO LONGER HAVE MY FACEBOOK, AND COME TO FIND OUT MY REPUTATION IS BEING BASHED AND PEOPLE WHO TAKE OFFENSE TO THE HORRIBLE THINGS THEY ARE SAYING ABOUT ME ARE TELLING ME THEMSELVES.
Should child support have limitations and men should have custody?
-I currently pay $1600 a month in child support and $600 a month for healthcare for my three sons. When I have them I buy groceries and plan activities. My ex wants me to pay all co-pays for healthcare, sports fees and before and after school. She is remarried has my child support tax free, her husband is in management and she works as a teachers aid and a waitress. Yet she wants more from me. I don't get how this is possible. I even offered to her that I take our sons full time and she would never have to pay me a penny in child support. She could see the boys at any time. Of course she said NO. She wants the paycheck.
Mind you... She has new furniture, 3 flat screen TVS a new car and makes my boys use their birthday money to buy new sneakers or in the case of my oldest son his lacrosse gear. I make just enough to afford rent, car payment and groceries each month. I am remarrying myself and would welcome my sons regardless of child support. Is it fair that men pay for the women to move on and prosper?
Why can't the person who provides the most support have the children. I am a great father and she left me for the man she remarried. NYS was going to make me pay $1200 a month in Alimony on top of $1600 a month in child support so I could not fight for my sons. She forfeited alimony for custodial guardian on joint custody.No partner should have anything from the other after a break.Yes the should be limitations RECEIPTS should be required for each expenditure for the child or children.I may be talking from my **s but I feel you should revisit this case in front of the family courts to amend her confiscatory practices.Good luck.
Sadly this is very typical from the men I know that are divorced with children. My advice is to do as I did. Go for Sole custody. She didn't make any money so I didn't get awarded child support. (She wouldn't have paid anyway) but I did get the kids.
You pay according to your net income,if you think the numbers are way off then you need to get a lawyer and take it back to court!
If you're not willing to go back to court then you need to stop bit%hing and just pay up!
They usually base child support payments on your earnings...you must earn a lot of money.
You should have made the shared custody 50/50 split request during your divorce. The state does not set alimony - the attorneys wrangle that out...What kind of an attorney did you have and where the heck do you live? It sounds like you got the short end of the stick...
Almost all of the recently divorced couples I know share custody 50/50 with no child support to either side...You really got screwed.
I'm very sorry to hear it bro.
I know two personal acquaintances all the way over here in Oregon who have the same situation.
It's not just...it's not right...and it's a travesty that women can do this crap these days.
And then they wonder why we don't propose to them, and instead keep them as permanent girlfriends and baby-mommas?
And I'm not some backstreet thug trying to sound tough...I drive a sports car, have a corporate finance job, and go to church every Sunday. I'm about as clean cut, good boy as they come.
But I've done the math, and simply cannot see any upside to marriage these days. There is no security, there is no respect, and as soon as she tires of you, she can take your income for life!
Fortunately, more and more states (I wouldn't count on NY) are moving to dual custody models, where there is no child support and no alimony.
In your case, I hope your children are growing fast, because I think you'll be on the hook until they're all past 18.
Again bro...my sincere condolences.
Your situation is horrible. I really feel bad for you and I feel bad for your sons. I can't believe she made him use his own bday money to buy his lacrosse gear or they had to use any of their money to buy her anything that wasn't a Mother's or Birthday gift. Hopefully you can get this support amount lowered soon.
And no it is not fair that a man pay for a woman to move and prosper. But just wanted to say that not all women are like this. I have two children from my ex and he purposefully moved out of state and works under the table to avoid child support. And he has NEVER not once given me one dime. You are a good dad. Your kids are lucky. My sister's ex husband pays about what you pay but she has not remarried and works one full time job and one part time job to make ends meet. She also doesn't own a flat screen or a new car. She can't afford it with rent and everything else. They half my niece's health insurance. And she and my ex brother in law work together to make everything peaceful and comfortable for each other. He is satisfied with how she spends the child support money and they get along great. So not every woman is like your ex. It doesn't help things but I just wanted to give you a few examples at the opposite end of this spectrum so you don't think all women are like your ex. She sounds shallow and selfish.
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When you play..you pay! You should of thought about this brandon before you got involved with this woman. What were you thinking?? Now your stuck with these high payments & to make matters worse you ex-wife could always get a live in boyfriend and both of them could enjoy all the money you give them.
You would of been better off just getting a hooker for the night...Now your stuck with a woman you will never have sex with & your still paying...
Just sayin...
Mind you... She has new furniture, 3 flat screen TVS a new car and makes my boys use their birthday money to buy new sneakers or in the case of my oldest son his lacrosse gear. I make just enough to afford rent, car payment and groceries each month. I am remarrying myself and would welcome my sons regardless of child support. Is it fair that men pay for the women to move on and prosper?
Why can't the person who provides the most support have the children. I am a great father and she left me for the man she remarried. NYS was going to make me pay $1200 a month in Alimony on top of $1600 a month in child support so I could not fight for my sons. She forfeited alimony for custodial guardian on joint custody.No partner should have anything from the other after a break.Yes the should be limitations RECEIPTS should be required for each expenditure for the child or children.I may be talking from my **s but I feel you should revisit this case in front of the family courts to amend her confiscatory practices.Good luck.
Sadly this is very typical from the men I know that are divorced with children. My advice is to do as I did. Go for Sole custody. She didn't make any money so I didn't get awarded child support. (She wouldn't have paid anyway) but I did get the kids.
You pay according to your net income,if you think the numbers are way off then you need to get a lawyer and take it back to court!
If you're not willing to go back to court then you need to stop bit%hing and just pay up!
They usually base child support payments on your earnings...you must earn a lot of money.
You should have made the shared custody 50/50 split request during your divorce. The state does not set alimony - the attorneys wrangle that out...What kind of an attorney did you have and where the heck do you live? It sounds like you got the short end of the stick...
Almost all of the recently divorced couples I know share custody 50/50 with no child support to either side...You really got screwed.
I'm very sorry to hear it bro.
I know two personal acquaintances all the way over here in Oregon who have the same situation.
It's not just...it's not right...and it's a travesty that women can do this crap these days.
And then they wonder why we don't propose to them, and instead keep them as permanent girlfriends and baby-mommas?
And I'm not some backstreet thug trying to sound tough...I drive a sports car, have a corporate finance job, and go to church every Sunday. I'm about as clean cut, good boy as they come.
But I've done the math, and simply cannot see any upside to marriage these days. There is no security, there is no respect, and as soon as she tires of you, she can take your income for life!
Fortunately, more and more states (I wouldn't count on NY) are moving to dual custody models, where there is no child support and no alimony.
In your case, I hope your children are growing fast, because I think you'll be on the hook until they're all past 18.
Again bro...my sincere condolences.
Your situation is horrible. I really feel bad for you and I feel bad for your sons. I can't believe she made him use his own bday money to buy his lacrosse gear or they had to use any of their money to buy her anything that wasn't a Mother's or Birthday gift. Hopefully you can get this support amount lowered soon.
And no it is not fair that a man pay for a woman to move and prosper. But just wanted to say that not all women are like this. I have two children from my ex and he purposefully moved out of state and works under the table to avoid child support. And he has NEVER not once given me one dime. You are a good dad. Your kids are lucky. My sister's ex husband pays about what you pay but she has not remarried and works one full time job and one part time job to make ends meet. She also doesn't own a flat screen or a new car. She can't afford it with rent and everything else. They half my niece's health insurance. And she and my ex brother in law work together to make everything peaceful and comfortable for each other. He is satisfied with how she spends the child support money and they get along great. So not every woman is like your ex. It doesn't help things but I just wanted to give you a few examples at the opposite end of this spectrum so you don't think all women are like your ex. She sounds shallow and selfish.
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When you play..you pay! You should of thought about this brandon before you got involved with this woman. What were you thinking?? Now your stuck with these high payments & to make matters worse you ex-wife could always get a live in boyfriend and both of them could enjoy all the money you give them.
You would of been better off just getting a hooker for the night...Now your stuck with a woman you will never have sex with & your still paying...
Just sayin...
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