How can i control my jealousy issues?

-my wife and i have a very good relationship. however, sometimes i'm blinded by my jealousy issues and cannot be logical.

yesterday my wife went with a girl friend of hers to swim in a very nice deserted beach. the father of that friend had driven them to spend some time there. all these ppl are trustworthy, but i cannot help than think that the father of her friend could be more than happy to see my wife halfnaked in her swimsuit.



am i crazy to think like that?No, you're not crazy. This is about changing your frame of mind, I think. Be proud that your wife can go out, have a good time, perhaps even be attractive to the opposite sex, but she'll always be coming home to you. Confidence in your wife and your relationship equals personal power, which in turn will reduce jealousy. It's everyone else that will be jealous of you, right?No, you are normal. In human biology, we learned that jealousy is a trait that helps survival. So from a biological standpoint, your feelings are a sign that you are more likely to survive in the wild. Interesting, huh?



For the casual everyday married person, considering how men and our modern culture paints (even encourages) them to behave in a sexually-induced uninhibited manner (you being a make can understand what I mean) can only heighten your protective radar for your wife. This is completely understandable and probably something you should discuss with your wife.



With my husband (partially because we are conservative Christians), I never wear a two-piece when swimming without my husband; only a one-piece bathing suit. For my husband, this shows that I am respecting him and do not want to even take the chance of displaying myself for other people to see when he is not around. However, every couple is different. Our situation works very well for us, though.
Crazy- no. Irrational- yes, however fears are never rational.



The real issue is you do not feel secure in your relationship, and you have a hard time really trusting people you are close to.. I'd suggest a few couples counseling sessions to help you improve trust in your relationship.



First off you need to take "ownership" for your own feelings of personal insecurity and self-doubt. It sounds like you're trying to do that, instead of blaming your insecurities on your wife.
No. And you will never be able to control your jealousy issue. I know because I have been with my husband for 6 years and I still am jealous! It never goes away. You're like me..If she loves you she will understand you. At time same time. You have to be reasonable and understand that you can't control her or try. All you will do is push her away and lose her. Be careful. Jealousy is a slippery slope my friend. One wrong move and you will go over the edge!



Do you trust your wife in even the most extreme circumstances your mind can scheme up? Someone lusting after your wife is a completely different thing than your wife cheating. What are you affraid of someone looking or your wife doing something? Address the issue and try and understand!
Oh, it may be very likely that the old man was happy to see your wife in a swimsuit. But WTF does that have to do with YOUR jealousy?



It's crazy to obsess over what other people may or may not be thinking. It's crazy to get bent over the idea that another man might see your wife in a swimsuit while she's swimming....



You need some help, Man.
Has your wife given you a reason for you to be jealous? If not then the problem is you work on your insecurities.