-This will be the 3rd time my husband cheats I know I should of left him the first time and I did he always begs me back u know when u love someone u dont want to let go but im getting tired of this I feel like I cant take it im stuck what do I do?it is hard , but leave him, i was in the same situation, and i always said that i would not let someone treat me like that, but i let him treat me like that for 3 years , i believed the promises etc because i loved him, and the worst thing was when he finally left me for the other woman last year, i blamed myself. Looking back now i wish i had stood up for myself and gone with my head and not my heart and kicked him out the first time.. I would have coped better being the one to end it rather than living in false hope.
It will be hard but if you have the support you can do it.
its time to leave him and if you are the type that wants to work it out in her relationship then i would say do what you need to do for your life to work!. if you have tried all you can try then its time to leave or suffer the mental/emotional damage that will happen to you if you continue to allow this person to hurt you.
you will never know how to trust another person if this is what your mind has to get use to. talk to your husband and she what it is that he needs and what you can do to help him and let him know your needs and what he can do to help you. and if this dosent work im sorry to say that when you have cheaters, they dislocate themselves from you emotionally along time before they actually do the cheating to make it easier or to justify why it is that they are doing it.
its time to get into a support group and individual counseling so that you have a way to fight back in all of this. dont feel bad about the cheating because millions of people cheat and its for many reasons and the number one reason is that they are unhappy with themselves,
if you have children begin to introduce them to other activities while you sort this thing out. If you are a mother who relies on her husbands income, its time to learn how to work and start saving your money as often as you can spare it. begin to live your life like to are single and this will help to transitions into the real world
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Wait until the 4th time and ask us this question again, and keep asking us until you take our advice.. or simply take our advise now and start moving forward.
- Take everything you cherish the most out of the house and put it safe in storage
- Get a phone in your name
- Open up a bank account in just your name only
- Get a PO box and have all your mail sent there
- Start stashing some cash - not just in you bank account - but CASH
- Start looking for a new place to rent and save for first and last months rent
- Do all of the above first
- Find a good lawyer - do not pay for this lawyer with cash - use your bank account, you will want the paper trail
- File for divorce
-Remember to eat
- Take one day at a time, this will be hard and trying
- utilize your resources - it's ok to ask for help
- Finalize the divorce
- Again, remember to eat, you CAN do this
- Work on rebuilding yourself and your life
- Never look back at this cheating man ever again
- Remember to hang onto the perfect 10 as a beautiful woman that you are and don't let anyone take that 10 from you
- Do not jump from the fire into the frying pan by getting into another relationship because your afraid you can not make it without a man - you CAN and you WILL make it
- When the time is right and you have found yourself again - learn to trust and have faith in yourself that you are a wonderful being who is deserving of a wonderful, loving relationship
Third time? I hate to say it but, maybe you've only caught him 3 times. It's seems less like a mistake and more like a lifestyle. It's his fault, not yours. He ruined your relationship. I'm pretty old fashioned and I believe there are only 2 legit reasons to get divorced. 1. He's abusive. 2. He cheats on you.
Stay strong. It's time to move on and find someone who will treat you right.
Unfortunately if you take him back all the time, he will expect it and keep cheating. However, I have heard of guys stopping to rebuild their marriage. You don't want to live with false hope.
Maybe you can show him what life is like without you and take a break, but dont let him know its a break.
You're right, you should have left the first time, and definitely the second time.
You grow some balls and pack your stuff and walk out the door, and tell him you refuse to be his doormat any longer. Get a pep talk from friends and family, who can help you find the strength to leave and will be there for you once it's over.
And DO NOT GO BACK no matter what he says. He's no good for you. You deserve better!
Teresa the word doormat comes to mind ?
You allow him to do this to you ? you keep taking him back
You need to say enough is enough
This guy needs a wake up call let him know you mean it
Stop being such a pushover
You are not "stuck" you are just to scared to do what you already know you need to do; leave him.
He keeps cheating because you keep taking him back.
Grow a backbone, toss all his stuff outside and leave the jerk!
Things change...people do...you have to accept that and realize he doesn't deserve you, he promised to be in a closed relationship and he didn't learn one thing about it...teach him a lesson and never let him get close to you again.
You need to get a backbone and dump him. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Divorce him and move on. There really are men out there that will treat you right and will not cheat.
He will not change only you can. Leave him and stop putting up with his crap.
u leave that bastar* and never look back...if he love you he wouldnt keep putting you through this pain...find somebody that appreciates you like you appreciate them
LEAVE HIS BUTT. He is going to keep doing it cuz he knows your always take him back. My advice leave him and move on with your life.
counseling or divorce
Tell him if he cheats 10 more times you might have to call his Mom
LEAVE HIM
3rd time. What's up?
cheat on him
since you dont know how to leave
Honestly,I would of left him the first time. :(
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