What is likely going to happen when my husband changes his last name to mine?

-My husband and I married because we loved each other very much; however, I was only going to accept the proposal under the condition that he take my last name because his was just horrible. He completely didn't have any problem with this, so we married and everything has been great.



However, he wanted to keep his last name for work (he is in the military) only. I agreed to this, but the military said "no" and has told him that he needs to pick one or the other. Technically, his last name has been mine legally, but he maintained it for about a year until he got caught.



He was telling me that his coworkers are going to give him a hard time about changing his name, but he loves me and wants to fulfill his promise he made.



Since I am a female and don't understand some of the petty things men complain about, what is going to happen to him when he changes his name? If the military is allowing gays and lesbians in the military, why would this be such a big deal?Not sure where you are from, but where I am from that is very very very emasculating. Some men will look at him as the "woman" of the relationship. I am from the South and this is something that is not up for debate, most women I know wouldnt even ask for a man to do that, you take a man you love for what he is ugly name and all.
What are the last names? The military is just strict. Since he wants to change it, he should change it despite being given a hard time.
Its not a big deal, people these days change there last name from shinjhsglgfq to brown. If his work is being tough on him he has to do t=something else really.
You must not be from USA...This will be an EXTREMELY BIG DEAL...especially in the Military...



However, he is a grown man and will decide what is best for him.
keep your last name..let him keep his. What's the big deal really? Maintain your individual identities.
He can have both. your last name - his last name. I was station with a couple who used that option.



don't keep adding stress on your marriage.



enjoy his love or you might end up single.
he should have put his foot down and demanded you change your name to his, i would have,

his friends will know he is a dumpling if he takes your name
I think what the military is doing is really strict its just a last name i mean really
Because they will think he is p*ssy-whipped. Don't hang around guys much, do ya?
You don't love him do you, really?
Look, I think women taking their man's last name is getting absurd in today's world where men leave constantly, and the children have their father's name when he doesn't even raise them. Then, the women have to re-do all their paperwork, SS number and credit report paperwork, etc. Ridiculous. ( hey, I did it TWICE, for the same "romantic-subserviant" reasons).

Keep your name and let him keep his. I would never ask a man to change his family name, and I think it's time we stopped expecting women to, in effect, become part of the husband's tribe, by changing her patronymic. This BS needs to stop.
I guess I don't understand why he had to change his name in the 1st place. I understand why you didn't want his last name if it really was bad but why not just keep your respective names. It seems like he isn't completely ok with changing his name.. It is up to him what he wants to do. I mean it is strange for a guy to take the wife's last name and being the military I can only imagine how much crap he would get for that. Even Jack White (lead singer of the white stripes) got crap for changing his name to his ex wife's last name and he is famous. And you have to think about when/if y'all have kids he wouldn't be able to pass on his family name which is important to a lot of guys. If he truly isn't comfortable with it then talk to him about switching his last name back to his family name. If you love him then his last name shouldn't matter.