My parents are getting devorced mainly because my mom cheated?

-a few weeks ago i found out that my mom has been cheating on my dad she also ran up all the bills and its just a mess. now there getting divorced and i just don't know what to do. i really want them to stay together but i know its all for the best. i'm just afraid that she's gonna go with this other guy. i know i should be happy she is but i want nothing to do with this guy. all the ideas shes been getting is from some friend of hers and this lady is messing everything up by putting irresponsible ideas in my moms head. what do i do. please please please help oh and ill be living with my dad is that a good idea?You can stay with any parent that makes you feel comfortable, My mum and dad divorced because my dad cheated and i stayed with my mum, He's with this woman now, and to start with i wanted nothing to do with her, i didn't want to see or speak to her i hated her for taking my dad away and ruining my family. But i do see her and speak to her as if she was my dads friend, there married and got a kid, And yes it still hurts me now and then but i stay strong, My mums got a boyfriend now, and shes never been so happy :). It sounds shes going through a midlife crisis, and her friend is just immature and stupid, Talk to your mum and say that if you get with this guy you don't want nothing to do with him. I think its a good idea your living with your dad, seen as your mum did the stupid thing and cheat and only think of herself, also tell your mum your friend is putting these thoughts in her head and it needs to stop, You can't do much more than talk to your mum and support your dad, Life does get easier over time. (:



xjust remember this is NOT your fault. I would recomend talking to your mom about her boyfriend and her friend. and both your parents about the divorce. I would also say to give your mom鈥檚 boyfriend a chance i know he is not your dad and never will be but he might be nice you could get to like him. Divorces are hard but try to keep an open relationship with both your parents it will only make it easier on you.

and with living with your dad... do whatever you would be most comftorable with. It鈥檚 your decision. whatever makes you happy.
Your mom sounds like she's going through some sort of emotional mid-life crisis. If she is making bad decisions, then there is nothing you can do for her. She is an adult and knows what the right thing to do is. Not doing so is her own decision. Until she can get herself turned around, living with your father is the right thing for you.
You're a kid. You can't do anything. I know you feel like everything has to do with you, is your fault, or should be about you, but it just isn't. You can't fix this.
she already had those ideas in her head, no one had to put them there. she made her choice.
Welcome to the modern world.



I always love what parents do to their children.



Stay out of this as best you can. It is going to be hell for oyu, but you also have your life to get on with. Living with your father is OK, but you are a daughter not a room mate. Keep that in mind. He still has a responsibility to raise you and he needs to keep that.



YOU have a rocky road ahead and it would be best if you tried to act your age and not try to be all "grown up and mature." You are not mature for your age, you are just your age. You can rally mess up your life if you are not smart.



Good luck.