I have been seperated from husband for a year?

-My husband left me for another woman a year ago and moved 600 miles away. He is coming up this weekend to collect all his belongings as i have told him i am no longer going to be his free storage space, he is bring up the other woman with him so she can meet our children, How do i meet this woman with out falling apart and how do i help my kids with this one.

I have suggested to my children that we meet at the local park and if after a while they feel comfortable then they can have some alone time with their dad and her, but i know this will hurt me deeply. I know that as all my friends say i have to be the bigger better person , but i am scared i will lose it in front of the kids when we meet. Any advice appreciatedYOU don't have to meet her or be around her. He can come to your house and pick up his thing without her. You can meet him in the park with the kids and if they feel comfortable enough with the situation, you can leave and she can meet them.
Don't be there. Have a friend there instead.



Simple.
its your house. he had no right telling you hes bringing her there. tell him to keep her skank a$$ away from your house!!
Has he had contact with the kids since the split? If not, I personally would not allow "alone time". Lets be honest, he isn't coming because he made that decision he is coming because he has to. He has not earned anything from you or your kids. I would not let my children be there when he gathered his things, and just fyi they would have been boxed and on my porch.



There is no reason for the kids to be there to watch their dad's final act of leaving. Why not pick them up after and meet at a park so they can if they want to see him and her.
Well your taking a very positive step in letting her into your children's lives and I commend you for that but there's nothing really anyone can say that's going to help you. This is an extremely delicate situation and forgive me for being blunt but theirs clearly mixed emotions going round about this new woman and your husband and its going to be very difficult for you. Been through similar situations myself, the first time you see her and your husband together you'll probably get the world's biggest knot in your stomach and feel almost poorly its going to be a case of putting a brave face on it. Your friends sound pretty supportive and my advice to you would be to not try and impress this woman because it will only show her a false sense of insecurity within you, instead just make yourself look presentable like you would everyday when you speak to them just remember to keep calm and not let the nerves get to you. Let your husband do all the introducing in terms of the children and remember that kids say the daftest things so don't worry about anything unsettling they might say. Keep conversation short and sweet really the more time talking to your husband and the other woman the more time there is for the nerves to take over. Apart from that I don't think there's much more I can say to you