He says I'm not the problem, says HE is the problem?

-We are both 20 and never dated or kissed someone.

He suddenly broke things off with me, his mom explained he was worried I wanted a make out session (which I don't want, just a simple relationship, go steady, THEN kissing).

We tried Again but he ended up yelling at me in front of his Mom. He excused himself saying he hadn't eaten all day and was cranky. I just forgave him.

Then he stopped talking to me all over again. He claims he has been busy, but according to Facebook he is just watching movies all summer.

He's so childish at times, he had a friend text me asking if I liked him.

He claims I ask "are you just done with me?" too much. I said it's because I feel insecure and sad because he does this.

He says the problem isn't me at all and tells me he is honest.

He says HE is the problem and keeps going into "weird moods" where he needs "to go be alone in his own world".

I truly do want to love him, he's wonderful, kind, a gentleman yet weird!

What is his problem? Is he lying to me? What do I do? Is it really me?Why are you even wasting time on this little boy, hes not mature enough to have a relationship, how can you think hes kind and wonderful when he behaves so childishly, give yourself the chance to be happy with someone else, good luck
He doesn't sound ready for a relationship. He might also be bi-polar with his moods swinging from one extreme to the other. I'm with the others, you should move on. It will not get any better. In fact, it may just become worse.
Marriage and Divorce?
It sounds like you're both very immature and he sounds very strange. I would move on if I were you!
I'm with Jan. Move on.
He doesn't sound ready for a serious relationship.



Our teen years are a discovery period, learning about who we are emotionally, mentally and physically: just as our bodies develop in obvious ways, our minds and emotions do in less obvious ones. Life goes in seven year cycles, which, like the seasons, rather merge into each other than suddenly change. At around seven we go from infancy to childhood, around fourteen, adolescence and 21, adulthood. People vary, obviously, but this is why teenage marriages are so very often disastrous in the longer term: it's very hard to get to know and understand others until we get to know ourselves, our own needs, etc. which are still fluctuating a bit until we are "mature". Hence, adolescents' feelings often fluctuate somewhat. This is a very good reason for avoiding the emotionally bonding sexual intercourse, as it can so often lead to serious emotional confusion.



Teenage & 20s marriages are so very often disastrous in the longer term: it's very hard to get to know and understand others until we get to know ourselves, our own needs, etc. which are still fluctuating a bit until we are "mature" (typically women in mid 20s, men mid 30s). Hence, adolescents' feelings often fluctuate somewhat. This is a very good reason for avoiding the emotionally bonding sexual intercourse, as it can so often lead to serious emotional confusion.



Good Luck!
First, stop asking if he's done with you...you're setting yourself up to be done with. Why give him an out? Also, if his mother is directing from the sidelines, then he is way too immature to conduct a relationship. And, by the way, if he's worried about a make out session, he has bigger problems than you can imagine. He may not really be into women...most men can't wait to kiss you. Don't let his reticence make YOU feel weird...kissing is normal, and def not asking for too much. Why the H is his MOTHER telling you he's afraid to make out? ( she must know or intuitively suspect something beyond this reluctance). Girl, that is just weird.weird weird. Red flag, anyone?



Also, most men in love don't give a fig for missing a meal, they hunt for days on an empty stomach and think about food later. He's cranky? no, he's a baby.

You sound cool.find a new guy. 10 years from now you'll hear from the grapevine he's gay.
Sounds like your mother in law has a lot of influence over him.



I was married for 15 years. My ex wife started to date a neighbor that is and was married. She dated him 2 years before we separated. She dates him infront of me and the kids. When I asked about therapy she said I need therapy but she doesn't because she didn't do anything wrong.



My ex wife had one sister that was about 35 years old. Just kicked her 4th husband out. Her other sister just kicked her lice in bf out. She has 4 kids from 3 different fathers. All 3 siblings within 6 weeks kicked there man out of there lives.



Sorry being personal. But what I would do is ask him to do therapy. If he says no you know the marriage is over with. He's given up. Good luck.