Should I avoid girls because of my parents marriage?

-I'm a 20 year old guy and one thing I've learned from my parents marriage: never get married and don't have kids.



My mother has been stucked in a crappy marriage with that guy that was necessary to get me here. No one should ever be miserable because of me, therefore I will never have a girlfriend, let alone have kids or marry.I can actually completely relate. My parents hated each other, and I swore I would never get married. I didn't swear off all relationships though, but didn't want to get stuck in an unhappy marriage and definitely never wanted kids (but that's just because I don't really like kids.)

I had some fun in my early 20's but never had a serious relationship until I met my now-husband. Been married almost 12 years and would do it all over again.

The key is, I learned from my parents' marriage and many other bad marriages and relationships about what to do and what not to do. I learned to get married because you want to, not because you feel you have to. I knew the sort of person I could spend the rest of my life with.



I say there's nothing wrong with being single. Enjoy it, spend time doing things you like, finish your education/get a good career started, meet new people and just get out and live life and have fun. If a great girl comes along, don't discount a relationship with her because of your childhood trauma. Take things slow and easy and see what happens.
thats stupid to use your parents marriage as a reason not to have a relationship. Not all relationships are the same and its what you make of it If you dont to put any child what you went thru then make a 5 or 10 year plan. if in 5 10 years you are happy with the same woman then decide if you want kids or not.
I understand the way you feel, my parents marriage was awful and it ended in a really bad way. Don't let the fact of a bad marriage effect your life and decisions. I swore I would never marry anyone after looking at my parents. But now I am married and expecting our first children. Don't let the fear rule your choices. Hope that helps xo