Ex with my friend..... HELP PLEASE?

-So we dated for over 3 years, lived together( for 3 years), shared everything(Bills, car, friend and family), She is my first love, my first everything... I am not her first... But i worked really hard to get over her past and i am now. I did everything for her moved out of my mom's, din't join the army, left my friends behind, go to college in something she prefered(not army), i moved 8 hours away from family and friends so i could be with her while she was studying... She decided to go back home for the summer leaving me in alone. After a few weeks i decided to moved with my father 4hours away from my hometown and friends. I broke up with her 4 weeks ago for these reasons - We have different priorities she wants to party, spend money and i want to find a career and pay off my debts - She was and still is spending most of her time with my friend(mostly guys) and i dont think its normal for her to spend more with my friend that i was but distance and priorities(work and money) doesn't let me. When we were dated i told she party with them but not always be with them. She watched movies 1 on 1 with some of friendsand spend the whole day with them(but i would never see her). That got upset and jealous. So we broke up she din't try to stop me or anything, i told i wanted to be back with her when we are at the same place in are life and we agreed to be friends. I thought by breaking it up the pain and jealouly of never seeing her and the whole friend issue would go away and it mostly did(i just miss her). I found out that one my 'friend' and her have been seeing each other for 2 weeks. I ask her about it and she told me that they maded out, snuggle and that he makes her forget about me, makes her laugh and happy... I told her that disrespectful because i love her and care about her so much i would never do anything to hurt her. She told me that she loved me and care about me too. After over 5 hours of me crying on the phone with her asking her why my friend and why do that to me, she said she would stop being more then just friends with him. She said its easy to be with my friend cuz she knows him and that she knew i would be upset that the situation. I thought she was different i thought she did care about me but her actions show otherwise... I dont know what to do.... i live with my father in a town were i dont know anyone outside of work, my work schedule wont let have a social life, i hate my job (i know i wont like any jobs until i join the army or a firehall in maybe months or years ), i dont have any money to do anything, i never get to see my friend, i miss ex who happens to be my bestfriend. I could move to my hometown were my friends and ex are... i just dont know i guess i need someone to talk to and listen and give there opinion... Sorry for my long story thanks in advance for any responds...As for your ex: She's toast. Done. Over. Finished. Crossed off the list. No longer part of your life. Gone. Out of respect for yourself, you can't allow someone to come back after something like that.



As for your heartbreak: Give yourself a little TLC and time to mend. Separation, support and time heals. "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference." - good quote :).



As for your friends: Make new ones. Your old ones sucked.



As for your career: Change it. Go into the military. It's what you want to do. The good news is that you'll gain brotherhood-like friendships there & possibly a new leash on life. It'll either be something you always regret not doing, or a source of pride and accomplishment.



Wish you the best.Fvck her! Join the military and do what you gotta do to get your life in order. There are plenty of other fish in the sea!
First of all realize that happiness is like fun it is a moment feeling.



Start Journal-ing become your own therapist, ask yourself who, what, where, when, why and how. In time you'll have an easier time dismissing the 鈥渄elusions鈥?as soon as you get them. The delusions being that which causes you stress or uncomfortable feelings.



Start on the first page with the good things people say about you and what you like about yourself. Read it every morning make and entry one a week and work on it (the answer the 5 W's and 1 H Questions above) weekly daily if you need to. Also figure out on paper different methods of dealing with things you need to address.





It's easier said then done so keep trying in 6 months you will be able to tell the difference and if you keep at it - it can help you for life.



Contentment is more what we can dare hope for and that only comes when you do not compare your life and what you have and do, to anyone else's life. You must be content with who you actually are, and what you actually have and what you can do. And that is to be the best YOU that you can be in finding that you will find fulfillment and contentment.



If you notice journals are in museums and have been a way of life for thousands of years.
Most of the time as im reading ,some stories come off some what true ! but wright in the begining you write something as to get over her past ,( not being her first what ) ?? see you didnt last ,couldnt keep up with her needs ! and now you are here bashing on her WHY !! and when we talk about the ones we love we dont talk about them like you are , you dont love anything other than to complain , she was right about you ! and now you just hate everything ! you need a good church before you flip out and really hurt someone bad ! you need to let alot of things go !! you are not going to be happy with no one untill you do that , good luck !